Who talks about sex more: M or F?

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Who talks about sex more: M or F?
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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 6:34am

I've read a lot of posts where women say they talk to their female friends about the details of sex, such as penis size, positions, etc. My experience talking to other men is that we discuss sex in a much more general sense, such as whether we are "getting any" or not, but there hasn't been much detail. When talking to same sex friends, do you think men or women are more likely to discuss the details?

My opinion is that women talk about it more, not just details, but more often. What do you think?

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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 6:43am
Obviously I'm not in on male conversations, so I don't know what you guys actually talk about. However, there are certain girlfriends I have with whom I discuss the details of sex, while others would be horrified. I think there are certain of my girlfriends' husbands and SOs who would probably be surprised to know how much I know about the details of their sex lives! Elaine
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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 8:26am

I tend to agree!!

Women like discussing things in detail... Even sex!! The position, the way he touched you, even the smallest detail!!! Women love detail - thats why we love fore play!!!

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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 8:41am

I don't know that you can generalize that much, about one sex or the other. Because it varies so much with each individual's comfort level. I don't talk about sex to ANYone except in the most very general terms, about me and/or DH. Maybe just saying DH went to sleep with a smile on *his* face last night or that I'm paying for the new car on the DH installment plan (wink, wink). Or that I once hosted a 'toy' party and we had a blast. DH really doesn't talk much either. Even when sex has been infrequent during a bad or stressful time, he's not the kind to complain to the guys at work about how he's not getting any. There's one guy at work - also a friend of ours - that constantly bemoans his nonexistant sex life with his wife and DH might say "I'm glad DW isn't like that!" to mess with him.

I never have talked about DH's size, not even on here and I don't discuss personal things like what we did exactly or positions we try. At work, we were discussing the fact that the office manager said that she has sex 3 times a year with her DH and we all agreed that she has issues (she's a nutcase, but that's another story) and we all agreed that we couldn't live like that. But no details, ever.

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Sun, 09-25-2005 - 9:19am

It all depends on the individual.


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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 9:36am

I don't think it's that simple. I think it depends on the person, not the sex of the person.

I have never shared intimate details of my sex life with female friends and my DH doesn't do that either.

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Mon, 09-26-2005 - 12:35pm

Well Here I am yacking about sex - and I also Discuss Sex with a few close friends - even details.

My Husband Doesnt, And neither do his co-workers and friends... they are all close friends and know eachothers wives gf's etc... but most these men are Married or in Long Term Relationships... the most that ever comes up is a joke they heard and wanted to share. Or the Wink Wink Nudge Nudge type of stuff... These guys all have an unspoken rule and that is not to share intimate details about their sex lives as the women involved with these guys are also friends with the others and My Husband has told me that he just feels its disrespectful to go spouting off information about us to them and vise versa. These guys show alot of respect to eachothers Partners and privacy.

Sometimes they'll get a single guy working for them that'll share stuff with them and they'll talk to him about HIS sex life, But they dont share back with them.

The Most They really do when it comes to specifics is Compliment... Like a "You have a beautiful wife and family"

In short - The Men my husband spends time with Dont Kiss and Tell. Although they do enjoy a good Joke and are close enough that if they wanted to it would be OK, But in a very respectful way.




Edited 9/26/2005 12:46 pm ET ET by allbluff
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 11:57am
You're right. Women do talk alot. It's a myth that men are the ones who kiss and tell. If a man does say something, it's usally in the form of some joke and very vague. Women on the other hand, go into great detail and I'm guessing that if a man were ever to divulge the same detail about a women as she does about him, she would very upset with him.
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Wed, 09-28-2005 - 1:20am
sex has never been a taboo subject for me. I discuss in detail with one female friend, no matter where we are. She shares with me even in more detail. However, sex is also discussed with male coworkers, but not in detail. I know partner and son have discussed anal (son trying to convince him to give it a try LOL).
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Wed, 09-28-2005 - 1:40am
Sex, as a general subject, isn't a taboo subject for me either and I enjoy discussing it with friends, etc. But discussing intimate details of my own sex life with my friends, family, etc. is a no-no. My DH and I want to keep some things personal and private.
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Wed, 09-28-2005 - 1:44am
Once again, Wary, that hasn't been my experience. I've heard more unsolicited gory details from men I've worked with than women. Now, it's always possible that they're lying, just like in High School, but nonetheless, they have been more than willing to expound on their experiences. Real or imagined.

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