Sex Hurts!

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Registered: 05-06-2003
Sex Hurts!
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:22am
I have come across a problem lately. For example, last night I had sex with my boyfriend and everything was fine. This morning, we tried again and it hurt so bad when he was trying to put it in that I had to make him stop. This has been going on for over a month now. I understand that you have to give your body time to "bounce back", but it had been over 12 hours. Shouldn't that be long enough? I'm still pretty young (just turned 24 yesterday!) and I'm not sure if this is something I just have to come to deal with or if there is a problem somewhere within. I am highly appreciative of any suggestions or comments. Thanks!
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: uscgyrl
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:37am

Sex should not hurt and when it does, there's a reason for it.


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Registered: 11-22-2004
In reply to: uscgyrl
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:51am
This happens to me as well. Even if it's fine and amazing in the evening with tons of foreplay, sometimes the next morning I feel like I've been positively gutted. No amount of "spit lube", or him going down on me, or me going down on him, seems to help. This only happens if we've really gone at it, but we usually do that. The body does seem to get more used to it if we're together regularly; if I haven't seen him in a while, the "gutted" sensation is almost sure to happen. Nothing as distressing as waking up with him in the morning and having to tell him I simply can't. But that's what bjs are for I guess.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: uscgyrl
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 3:30pm

No, you don't have to "just deal with it"! This is how your body is, at this point in time. You said it's just lately. Lubrication is largely dictated by foreplay, and by hormones. Your hormones can fluctuate from time to time. Are you getting enough foreplay in the morning, or are you in a hurry, because you have to go to work, or whatever?

The first thing you should do is just simply use some lubricant. That's probably all it will take. If that doesn't help, then as Tish said, it's time to talk to the doctor.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: uscgyrl
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 5:03pm

What do you mean by your body having to "bounce back?" Your vagina was created for intercourse so unless he's trying to penetrate before you're well lubed and fully aroused, or you're engaging in intercourse for hours on end, then "bouncing back" shouldn't be required.

Pain tells you that something's wrong, and that should never be tolerated. If you think that something has changed in the last month, then talk with your gyno.

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Registered: 05-06-2003
In reply to: uscgyrl
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 9:52pm
Thanks for everyone's advice. Sorry if I sounded kind of naive, but I'm kinda late learning about myself. I'm out of town right now, but when I get back we're going to try more lube. I think now I may have been overthinking things. But if this doesn't work, I'll be sure to talk to my gyno. Thanks again!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: uscgyrl
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 12:42am
I hope the extra lube helps but you might ask for more foreplay if you aren't getting lubricated enough before intercourse. Good excuse for getting more attention, huh? LOL!