Extremly Confused

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Registered: 10-03-2005
Extremly Confused
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 7:56pm

okay this is a little odd for me. Im 19 and the first time i had sex was when i was 16. Obviously it was not because i thought it would feel good but because of the connections it ment. I'm with the same guy but we did not start having sex after that until because we thought we were to young.

Now that we are trying to start up agian we've done it a few times and there are some weird things that are happening and making it akward. Are there any basic sujestions you guys can give me? just right back to the basics so that we can start fresh and do it properly?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 8:25pm

I'm not sure what you mean by some weird things are happening and making it awkward.


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Registered: 10-03-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:11pm
hm okay some things that are making it akward. And extrmely upsetting to me was that he didnt orgasim. It bothered me a lot, but it was mainly because we were trying to figure out what felt right and we lost the motivation after a while.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 11:27pm

Why would you be upset if he doesn't reach climax or ejaculate? That's not at all unusual for a young man who's just starting out. It's called being "nervous". It has nothing to do with you.

You lost the motivation? Are you sure you are really that interested in doing it? Are you sure he's the right one? Two people who really care about each other shouldn't feel awkward, or lose interest.

You do what feels good at the moment. If something doesn't feel good, then don't do it. Read the website that Tish recommended.....because it sounds like neither of you knows much about a woman's body, and that's a good place to learn.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:27am

There is no reason you should be upset if he doesn't orgasm and he shouldn't be upset if you don't.


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