How many times ?

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Registered: 12-01-2003
How many times ?
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Tue, 10-04-2005 - 5:43pm

how long did it take for all of you to have sex comfortable after losing your virginity ??
i've only had sex 2 times and it still hurts (not hurt.. but doesnt feel good).. after a little while the 2nd time during it felt kind of good but in my head im like "whats the point in this?"... lol.

just a question out of curiosity. Thanks.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: naleiya
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 6:14pm

I was comfortable with sex from the first time.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: naleiya
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 10:38pm
IF he's only thrusting away, then it won't feel very good. It takes more than that to give pleasure to most women. IF he or you is stimulating your clitoris, before and during, that will help.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
In reply to: naleiya
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 11:34pm

If you & your partner know what you're doing, it shouldn't hurt at all. How much time are you taking for foreplay? You don't just have intercourse, you have to get ready for it with foreplay, and lots of it. Foreplay gets you ready for intercourse by getting you aroused, allowing your vagina to relax, and allowing your lubrication to start. Without foreplay, it will hurt, whether it's the first time, or the 100th time.

Once you get past the hurt, you say "what's the point"? That's because there is no feeling inside the vagina, only at the opening (that's the part that hurts). That's why women need foreplay, because it's much more pleasurable than intercourse. Your vagina isn't your main sexual organ, your clitoris is, and that's where you get pleasure from, even during intercourse. He can stimulate it, you can stimulate it, or your position can. Guys go for the intercourse, but women need foreplay, and you don't let him go for the intercourse until you're ready.....even if it takes 1/2 hour!

Both of you need to read www.the-clitoris.com and learn about what it takes to make sex good, not painful, or boring.

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Registered: 12-01-2003
In reply to: naleiya
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 2:56am
we always have lots of foreplay because it's always slippery... we both have good lubrication... most of the time he keeps slipping out of me. i think he be nervous but i always tell him to go slow and he does.. i dont know, maybe its just me. i always "think" about the pain so maybe thats why i feel it.