fat sex!

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fat sex!
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Wed, 10-05-2005 - 8:14am
I am in my early 20’s and have had 3 sexual partners (intercourse) and all that has happened when I was a smaller size. I have now gained some weight and now am a size 16. I am in a new relationship now and he is pretty good about giving complements about my body so I don’t feel that self-conscious. Things have gotten pretty hot and heavy lately and we have special night planned for this weekend. My main concern is that with his average sized penis (6”) and my weight that penetration might be shallow. What are the best positions that allow the deepest amount of penetration and that aren’t too aerobic? One friend recommended missionary with a pillow under my hip, and of course there is always me on top but I think my boobs might be smacking me in the face (:p) during that one. Thanks for any suggestions!!!!
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In reply to: massromanticlove
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 9:17am
Doggy is always good and on your back with him standing by the bed or kneeling on the bed, with your feet on his chest or over his shoulders, also allows for deep penetration. I wouldn't worry too much about shallow penetration though. My DH had no problem penetrating deeply even when I was pregnant both times.
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In reply to: massromanticlove
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 11:22am

Size 16 is NOT fat......maybe according to todays standards, where everyone is supposed to look like they're starving to death, but it is NOT fat. And it certainly will NOT interfere with sex, or penetration in any way!

As far as the way you look to him is concerned, he knows what you look like with your clothes ON, and therefore he knows what you will look like with your clothes OFF! Not all men like emaciated women! In fact, if you ask them, I think most men LIKE a woman with a little meat on her bones! And at size 16, that is exactly what you have.....you are NOT fat!

Do what you always do, and it will be the same as it always was.....NO difference.

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In reply to: massromanticlove
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 6:05pm

When you're on top, try moving in more of a circular, grinding motion instead of bouncing up and down.

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In reply to: massromanticlove
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 6:15pm
Hey Jazz! Long time no see!
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In reply to: massromanticlove
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 6:36pm

Hey, Kat!

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In reply to: massromanticlove
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 10:04pm
Honey, I am a bigger girl than you are and trust me, my weight or my man's average size penis have not caused us any problems. You just have to experiment and find out what works for you. Like another poster said, doggie style works very well if you enjoy deep penetraton. And you really made me laugh about the boob thing. Relax, we all come in different shapes and sizes and somehow, it all works out.
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In reply to: massromanticlove
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 10:07pm
I see nothing wrong with the word fat and do not see it as a word that is degatory. If it a word that I have reclaim and word that I use proudly to describe my physique. As for being self conscious about my body I never said I was and my guy is quite comfortable with my body. My question was not so much issues concerning body image, but concerning ideal sexual positions.
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Thu, 10-06-2005 - 9:38pm
I was a size 22..but now I am a size 14/16..and I am only 19 lbs away from my goal weight, so that's really not that fat.I have big hip bones, you can even see them! lol! And my boyfriend is lean and muscular and he LOVES my curves. I am only 20..and yes I have stretch marks, loose skin from weight loss, cellulite, etc..but in sexy lingerie and such--he loves to see me. Even when we take showers together--he is amazed by my body. So I really do not think all guys are that way. I've never dated an overweight guy, always tall, lean, athletic ones and I've never been "thin" so..I think curves can be very sexy! Right now I lay on my back towards the end of the bed and he stands at the end and my legs go up in the air and we do it that way. It's very deep and feels really good! I am working on the other positions! LOL! But that's my suggestion. Get yourself some sexy lingerie--my fav is a sheer black one that has sheer red hearts on it..so it hides any imperfections but is really sexy!
good luck,
Heather M.