one night stands

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one night stands
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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 1:31pm

Hi
What is your opinion on one night stands. Would you date someone who has had a one night stand? Have you ever had one?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 1:52pm
I personally wouldn't have a one night stand and never did, it's just not my thing but I have no opinion one way or another what someone else does.

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 2:11pm
I agree with tish..Deciding to date someone based on whether or not theyve had a one night stand would be hard...Some people do it because they see nothing wrong with it..Some people do it out of pure ego...Its not always about just sex..Some people do it to bury a bad breakup, and to feel worthwhile again...I suppose if you knew what the reason behind their one night stands were , it might make it an easier decision.
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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 3:25pm
Never had a one night stand and neither has my DH. I'm not sure if I would date a man who has or not. I would have to KNOW about it to make that judgement and most of the time you wouldn't know about it until later.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 12:27am

I'm trying to figure out if you're a female that's trying to decide whether or not to date someone who has had one night stands, or if you're wondering if a guy would date YOU (or any other female) that has had one night stands.

Either way, what someone did before they met another person is no business of the other person. If you don't like one night stands, then don't have them. If you've had one night stands, how would he know that anyway?

If a guy you want to date has had them.....so what? As long as he doesn't make YOU a one night stand, and he can't do that if you don't have sex with him on the first date.

Lots of people have them, so I guess lots of people think they're okay. That's personal choice.....and is no one's business but their own.

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Registered: 08-20-2004
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 12:51am
No I have not had a one night stand. Don't think I will either. Would I date a woman who's had a one night stand? Don't know. Never put much thought behind it. But if I did, I'd have to ask her and rely on her honest answer. Ha, good luck asking women for honest answers.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 9:39am
LOL! Careful, Wary. Your bitterness is showing!


Edited 10/11/2005 9:55 am ET ET by katmandoo2001
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Tue, 10-11-2005 - 9:57am
I'll bet it's ALMOST as hard getting an honest answer from a woman as it is from a man!
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Registered: 11-15-2003
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 10:34am

zelenooka,

I had a couple of one night stands before I was married. The myth is that men can have them and it's no big deal...that was not true for me at all. I always felt sort of empty and lonely after them.

As far as having a relationship with someone that has had one. I suspect that a fair percentage of the population have had one or two, if you use this as a litmus test for a potential relationship, you will probably cut out an awful lot of great people from your pool of perspective partners. It is always best to view a persons character based on what they are now rather than what they have done in the past.

Peace,
Scott.

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Registered: 08-12-2004
Tue, 10-11-2005 - 11:13am
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LOL...almost.
I've had one night stands in my past. Never went into them with that intention. They just turned out that either I or she wasn't interested in continuing a relationship much longer than a few dates if that. Some said they would call and didn't. Some called and turned out to be fatal attractions that I had to run from.


Edited 10/11/2005 11:15 am ET by luvlickin
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Wed, 10-12-2005 - 7:17am

Yea, when I was in college, I had a few one night stands, sometimes with the same girl. But the definition of a one night stand sort of leads to the belief that a relationship exists. Now what starts out as a one night stand, may lead to a relationship.

CH

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