Advice on this position

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Registered: 01-03-2004
Advice on this position
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Tue, 10-18-2005 - 7:31am

Hey all,

I have had sex with my BF several times. So far we've tried the missionary, doggie, and me on top, facing towards him; however I haven't yet achieved achieved orgasm through intercourse.

Last night, my BF suggested we try a new position - me sitting on his lap, facing away. His theory is, that the angle might be good for me, plus he could reach around and touch me.

Currently we are in a LDR, and won't be seeing each other for a couple of months, so we'll have to wait before trying it out. I should also add that he is the first guy I've been intimate with. Also, I generally have no trouble coming through manual or oral stimulation.

I was just curious as to whether anyone has tried this position - girl on top, facing away - and if so, what they think of it? Also, is it conducive to orgasm?

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 8:22am

First of all, about 80% of women do not orgasm through intercourse alone.


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Registered: 12-20-2004
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 9:07am
Many women who need stimulation of the clit to orgasm during sex find that woman on top facing the man works well....Dont just go up and down , but slide forwards and backwards on his penis, grinding your clit on his body..Concentrate on your pleasure, it will automatically feel good for him. Its not "cheating" its just what works for many women.
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 9:34am

Instead of worrying about what's conducive to orgasm, concentrate on what's conducive to pleasure. You're not in this for orgasms, you're in it for mutual pleasure with someone you care about, and enjoy intimacy with.

As Tish said, intercourse itself is not conducive to orgasms, unless you're getting clitoral stimulation at the same time. Woman on top is one of the best for this, if you do it right. You don't imitate a man by jumping up and down.....you move your hips and pelvis slowly and sensuously in a circular grinding motion.

WOT doesn't "work" for some guys, but there's no rule that you can't take turns with whatever works for both of you. Don't make it a quest for orgasms, make it a time for pleasure for both of you.

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Registered: 10-17-2005
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 9:51am
i love to do it that way but i have to get her on a hard floor so theres no give because im short but she turns around puts her hands on my ankles and hangs on she does the work and i explode. i have my best orgasms in that position
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 10:00am

Doesn't work for me or my DH. Sometimes, it can cause pain because the angle is wrong for both of us.

I would suggest just manually stimulating yourself in whatever position you're using. Most women require manual stimulation during intercourse to orgasm though, so that's not unusual at all.

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Registered: 08-12-2002
Tue, 10-18-2005 - 6:52pm

I enjoy this position, but you'll end up doing most of the work. I find that the guy tends to get off well before I do because my grinding drives him over the edge really quickly! But that doesn't bother me because I get a kick out of driving my guy crazy. You can do the same sort of thing lying on your sides too.

Don't worry about whether you're having an orgasm or not, just enjoy what's happening between the two of you. The more you think about having an orgasm, the less likely it is to happen.

Janet

 


 


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Registered: 10-17-2005
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 1:30pm
i love it because im very short and it makes me feel like im getting all the way to heaven and we both orgasm great with her doing the work
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 1:42pm
Outdoorsman, any position where your partner's legs are drawn up towards her chest, will shorten the vagina, making it feel like you're going in further.
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Registered: 10-17-2005
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 3:33pm
i have found that out because when she sits on me like that and sits straight up it feels so good and like ive went all the way although being small so i love that position. it works better on something solid like the living room floor or wherever other than bed