Ever "studied" your genitals?
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| Fri, 10-21-2005 - 8:17am |
I think most of us take our genitals for granted. They're just kind of there. We enjoy what we can do with them, but how many of us have ever really looked at ourselves?
I'm definitely hetero, but at times if I'm in the right mood, I like to look at my penis and wonder at it (usually while masturbating, as I'm too busy during lovemaking ;-)). It's amazing how it grows, how the skin tightens and gets almost shiny at full erection. It can be incredibly fascinating to watch. Just watching my penis do it's thing can make me feel very masculine. As for ejaculation, that's a trip in itself!
My ex had little if any interest in her genitals. She did look once with a mirror, but decided it's no big deal to watch or look at. She really enjoyed sex, but her own body was of no major interest to her.
How about the rest of you?

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I am with your ex, Mancreature, I don't find my genitals very interesting at all. Maybe because of menstruation and things like that, that women have a different kind of relationship with their genitals than men do. Now, as a girl who is newly single after more than twenty years of marriage, I am developing what might sometimes be considered an unhealthy interest in men's genitals!
Kate
I checked it out a few times when I was 11 or 12 and I thought "how ugly" and wondered why any man would be interested in going there.
I've since figured THAT out, lol
PS: It's sure not about what it "looks" like......and I find it very sad when young women feel that they're "odd" or think about changing it via plastic surgery.
Sure, I've taken Course 101 in checking myself out, I was born with a curious mind.
Kate,
I hope that you keep us all posted on how your so-called "unhealthy interest" in male genitalia progresses!
Barrister
As I said in an earlier post, I have "on" and "off" days re: sex. Today it's "on"! I wish I could meet someone who had an "unhealthy interest" in my genitals. I'd be glad to satisfy her curiosity.
Oh, well, back to the erotic pictures. :-(
My FWB takes pictures of my sweet pie. And we look at the pictures together and i don't have a problem looking at them. He loves the way it looks and says its beautiful and shows me what a man loves about it. I have always been with men who show me what they love about me. It gets me so hot when i look at myself cause i know i please them as much as they please me. As for women we should always look at ourselves just in case something is wrong we know what should be there and what should not. i check myself every so often just to make sure she is tended too and alright.
flores
Obviously, it's very different for women because our genitals are hidden. It takes a concerted effort for us to "study" them the way men do. I was a little queasy about it at first, in my early teens, because of my general upbringing. But now, I like watching myself masturbate and having sex with my DH. Even taking pictures of us during intercourse doesn't intimidate me anymore.
I definitely think it's advisable for young girls to be encouraged to KNOW their bodies, for their own future pleasure and sexual confidence, as well as for their general health and wellbeing. We each NEED to know what normal looks like for us.
Edited 10/21/2005 4:56 pm ET by katmandoo2001
Actually yes.
Playing ball back in the old days, all it took was a groin pull...OUCH! Had to be extremely careful for a week thereafter, including when bathing. Don't know if I'd classify that as , lol, but more attention to detail, if you will, than normal for sure.
C H A R A C T E R
Hey Mancreature - great topic. I tend to agree with you that we take our genitals for granted. A little background and then I promise to get back to the topic at hand...
My mom died when I was 7 yrs old and I was raised off and on by my dad - so talk of sex, materbation etc were never discussed. I was molested as a young girl (not by my dad) so grew up feeling "dirty" - all of which contributed to "not looking". To make a long story short... I was married for many years and have been a widow for 8yrs and am just now, at 45, learning who I am sexually. While married we had an okay sex life - he never asked what I wanted or needed and I thought "nice girls" didn't tell or ask..... I have never orgasmed - altho have been recently working on it (ohh.... so close........lol). I know now how much I/we missed out on and am no longer willing to "settle"! I live in a very small town with no decent men available, so for now it's up to me to get the job done.
I was talking with an online friend one day about women's genitals and I asked him - how do you think we are beautiful? I honestly had never thought of myself that way. After hearing his discription, I got the mirror out and a bright light and set out to look for myself. You know what? He was right - we are beautiful - so many different textures and colors. I will admit I am somewhat jealous of you men folk - you get to touch yourself, see yourself grow and soften many times during the day - if we want to really see ourselves, it's a planned event! I wish I was at a place in my life where I had someone that I could sit and look at, touch and watch the changes that I create... but again I am off topic! lol
lust
Other than diseases , don't think there's such a thing as an "unhealthy interest" in male genitalia. LOL ~BTW, let us know if you discover anything new in that area!
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