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kissing problem
| Tue, 10-25-2005 - 1:51am |
Help! When I first started dating my boyfriend, I was very inexperienced and shy during sex. He would lavish me with attention, kissing me all over my body, and I reciprocated a little bit, but then I stopped giving that kind of attention. Even then I only kissed him on the neck - he's fuzzy so I didn't want to kiss his chest at all. It's weird, because I'll touch him anywhere, and I love making out with him and giving him blowjobs, but I don't kiss him anywhere other than the lips. And now, since it's been so long since I've even kissed him on the neck that I get nervous and self-conscious everytime I think about getting out of my comfort zone and kissing him elsewhere. I worry that I won't do it right, and he won't like it. He does so much for me in bed, the sex is amazing, and I really want to make it even better for him. How can I get over this weird fear?

The way to get over ANY "wierd" fear is to DO IT. People who are afraid to fly overcome that fear by getting on a plane and going somewhere. People who are afraid to drive get in a car and drive.
You're afraid you won't do it right? What is there about kissing that you could do wrong?
You said that in the beginning, he would "lavish you with attention, kissing you all over your body"......does that mean he doesn't do that any more? If not, I can imagine why. A partner will get tired of "lavishing" if they feel they're not getting the same back! If you feel his chest is too "fuzzy" then don't kiss his chest.....there is plenty of other body left that you CAN kiss.
Bottom line, if you care about him, you'd do these things automatically....."lavishing" him in the same way that he does you. It's not a matter of making it better for him, it's a matter of showing that you enjoy being with him, and are reciprocating his attention to you. No one can feel very enthusiatic if they feel their partner isn't JUST as enthusiastic! He doesn't really do it to make it "better" for you, he does it because he loves doing it......and you should do the same.