Erotic Vacation - need help

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Erotic Vacation - need help
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Wed, 10-26-2005 - 4:01pm

Hi All:

I haven’t posted in a long time, but still love reading the boards when I get a minute. Just so busy with work. Thank God I have a great man, a great marriage, and a great sex life. Which brings me to our dilemma.

Can anyone recommend some great erotic travel destinations/resorts? Clubs where people engage in live sex would be of interest as well (we are in the Northern NJ/NYC area). Must be classy, not sleazy!! DH and I are not interested in swapping; however we want to experience an erotic environment where we can watch and be among others while having our own experiences. Porn has always been a great turn on for us, but we really want to experience a live environment. We don’t want to go to a “lifestyles” resort and be hit on constantly (I don’t mean to be conceited, but both DH and I would be hit on big time, and it just is not something either of us has an interest in – we’ve got an exceptionally good and exclusive thing). We have found several resorts on-line, but we would really like recommendations. Unfortunately, the resorts that appear to appeal to us seem to be for swingers. They say that “no” means “no”, but you never know.

Are we asking for something that just doesn’t exist? Do you have to be in for a penny, in for a pound? That would ruin what we are looking to experience.

Please post or e-mail (preferable since I cannot always get to the boards) any suggestions or experiences. They would be greatly appreciated. We have been discussing this for years, and really want to act on it.

Thanks so much,

Bern

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Registered: 10-16-2005
Sun, 10-30-2005 - 6:44am

Bern,
You really need to go to the Poconos Caesars Resort. We've been there several times. It is a bit cheezy, but it is a lot of fun. It is meant for couples that want to get away and focus on just themselves (sex being a huge part of a stay there). The rooms provided are really what fantasies are made of. We've stayed in the Champaign Rooms that have LOTS of amenities and can be quite romantic. They have DVD players so we always bring our collection of movies. They have a round bed (which isn't that comfortable), mirrors all around the bed and above it, an in-door pool, massage table, steam room, and champaign tub with waterjets. It is simply amazing!!!

The entertainment can be fun... you just need to give it a chance. Some people don't like the idea of sitting with other couples at dinner, but we've always had very good luck - they have all been VERY nice and fun. We've never had the feeling that people were there to "pickup" on other couples so you don't have to worry about that.

They also have lots of activities such as horseback riding, games, snowmobile riding, etc.

You can read a few of my stories that are based on at least some of our times in the Poconos in the "Steamy Stories" part of the Fantasy board.

I hope this helps.

Anne.

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Sun, 10-30-2005 - 12:13pm
Have you checked on Sybaris? Haven't been there but have read and heard it's just the type of adults-only place you're looking for. I believe they have a website.
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Sun, 10-30-2005 - 4:58pm

I dont believe it exists. We looked for a place like that as we are the same.
They call it soft swinging. Basically same room sex kinda thing. Watch and be watched but these places are full of swingers. They act and say they are non judgemental but boy do they judge you and exclude you if you arnt one of them. Makes for a tough vacation (Hedo2). The eroticism in exhibitiionism and voyeurism is fun but it ends there.

The only thing I can suggest is to find another couple like yourselfs (and us or that matter) and go with them somewhere and make your fun.

Good luck. We gave up looking. Seems we are a rare breed who like all that but dont swap partners.

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Registered: 10-25-2005
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 10:38am
I also like the idea of it and I know my bf would too. I find it hard to believe that there isn't anywhere for this type of getaway. We are completely commited to each other and lately have been looking for some way to bring more excitement into our lives. will advise if we find anything worth mentioning.
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Registered: 10-25-2005
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 10:44am
Sorry but that place just looks like a cheesy hotel. we can take baths at home etc. not quite what we're looking for. thanks anyway
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Mon, 10-31-2005 - 11:20am

Well, the whole idea is pretty cheesy anyway, isn't it? I mean, watching others watch you have sex is pretty cheesy, so the cheese factor is a given at any place that would promote that in an organized way. Change the decor, surroundings and mood lighting and it's still cheesy.




Edited 10/31/2005 12:25 pm ET by katmandoo2001
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Mon, 10-31-2005 - 11:26am
it shouldn't have to be organized just acceptable and welcomed.
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Mon, 10-31-2005 - 11:28am
Oh, I have no doubt that it's acceptable and welcomed at those places though!
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Mon, 10-31-2005 - 11:34am
ok so maybe what we're looking for doesn't exist. Maybe it's just all or nothing and we're somewhere in the middle.
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Registered: 02-14-2005
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 12:47pm

Hi All,

Thanks for the comments. They are greatly appreciated. Especially, those who beleive that what I am looking for doesn't exist. I don't either. An uncomfortable experience is exactly what I want to avoid. However, I will check out what was mentioned here.

We have been on many cruises and to several resorts/all inclusives. We have even made the mile high club. We love outdoor sex, and sex in daring situations. And we love to watch porn in order to watch other people. We are looking for a "erotic adventure" to add to our "play list" and combine the best of all worlds.

Please keep those suggestions coming. Maybe we will get lucky.

Thanks,

B

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