How Long Does He Last?

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Registered: 12-08-2004
How Long Does He Last?
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Fri, 10-28-2005 - 2:15pm
Hey girls, I wanna know how long your guy can have sex, actual penis in vagina intercourse, before he orgasms. My BF lasts maybe two minutes if I am lucky, is this really short, or is it just me? Any tips and getting him to last longer?
Thanks!

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Registered: 11-22-2004
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 5:53pm
My theory is the more experienced he is, the more he will be able to control this. My current bf is older and is extremely extremely sexually experienced and he has no problem lasting 30 minutes or more inside me -- it seems to me he has a good deal of control over it as when we only have time for a quickie, he can cum in a few minutes, but when we have no time limits he can go and go and go. One time we did it for over two hours! In any case, I really do think that comes from simply being very in touch with his own sexual responses -- presumably after a few thousand times it starts to make sense to them!!!
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Registered: 07-26-2005
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 11:41am

There's no "average". Some guys lose it before they start (PE) and some guys can last for hours. Some guys can't EVER finish with intercourse!

For most, as the other poster said, it's a matter of control, and some guys learn to make it last longer, others can never accomplish that. There's a "stop & start" method.....they stop just as they're about to lose it (just for a moment), then start again when they've got it under control. That's something that HE has to do, you can't do it for him. It also takes time and practice, it doesn't work the first time they try it.

If it's just a matter of you not being "satisfied", then have him take more time with foreplay.....so that you're satisfied before you ever get to intercourse, then it won't matter so much how long he takes. Most women don't have orgasms from intercourse anyway, so make sure he takes enough time with oral and manual foreplay, and you can both be happy.

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Registered: 05-25-2003
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 12:35pm
Hi!
My DH can last 20-30 min. tops that is when he is inside me. Otherwise he can go for hours just messing around!
MS
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Registered: 10-12-2005
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 3:29pm

I think she was just asking others how long their man can last. I think she knows it varies...I don't think she need a long generalized explanation...and you didn't answer her orginal question which was how long does your man usually last?

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Registered: 12-27-2003
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 3:32pm

ITA with you.


It just doesn't vary by individual, but it varies from tolerance build up.

 

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Registered: 11-04-2003
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 8:05pm

My own time varies. Yes, sometimes it can be as short at 2 minutes, especially if there has been a lot of foreplay. Get excited for 2-3 hours with flirting and foreplay and I'm lucky to last 30 seconds.

However, even on those days, each succeeding time I can last longer. By the 3rd or 4th time that I enter her, I can pretty much last as long as I choose, meaning up to 30-40 minutes. By the 4th or 5th time, I may have trouble reaching orgasm, even though I remain hard for an hour or more. Frankly, even with massive doses of lube, that isn't always pleasant the next day for either of us.

When it's just a night time deal where we knock one off to get to sleep better, no flirting or teasing earlier in the night, only 10-15 minutes of foreplay, it will be about 8-10 minutes while I'm inside her. But that takes a little effort on my part and I pretty much hold on until after she has had her orgasm.

He can also learn to last longer. He has to stop when he feels it building and you have to be still so that he doesn't get stimulation from you. Each time it grows and you hold back, it develops some long term training. Also, doing this 7-8 times (I recommend letting go at no more than #5) in one night can make it so that he actually has a hard time reaching orgasm when you finally decide to let it go. Of course, in that situation, he may well find that the orgasm that is hard to reach after delaying has an intensity that he has never experienced. And his erection may not go away until there have been several more bouts. In those, he's going to have to work at acheiving orgasm instead of withholding.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 8:25pm
She did ask <<<Any tips and getting him to last longer?>>> which was what Dakine was explaining.


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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sat, 10-29-2005 - 9:03pm

I read somewhere that statistically, the average man lasts 3 -5 minutes of intercourse before ejaculating.

My experiences with different men over the years most certainly concur.

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Registered: 11-02-2005
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 5:48pm
Is the two minutes bad because you don't get off, or just because it's two minutes?
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Registered: 08-12-2004
Mon, 11-07-2005 - 5:53pm
30 seconds to a minute...which, "in MY opinion" is what is the reality of those who think 2-3 minutes...but aren't actually timing it. LOL



Edited 11/8/2005 8:13 am ET by luvlickin

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