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| Thu, 01-11-2007 - 7:11pm |
My wife and I are in our early 40’s we have been married for 17 years, we have two kids Jr. high & high school aged. As with any couple our sex life has been up and down. During a high point about four years ago I asked my wife how many lovers she has had in her life time. She quizzed me on the question and told me if I was serious I could look in her address book. I told her it was kind of an erotic thought and turned me on, so she went to her clothset and pulled out a purple address book, I have seen it a few times over the years but never was interested in opening it as I thought it was just an address book.
I studied the book for a bit in disbelief, the names were in chronological order by date only I counted five “John Doe’s” she said that she never did get their names. The last name # 131 was me, the 131 was strictly intercourse (no oral sex or petting etc.)!!! I was just stunned; some of the names I recognized from when we were in high school, more than half of the names were Japanese (my wife worked in Japan for 4 years after college.) I asked her what kind of partying she was doing in Japan, she said that her boss advised her to make their business clients as happy as possible; she said that tall and blonde was popular in Japan in the 80’s. After that, sometimes while we were having sex she would tell me about some of her more wild exploits; it was quite a turn on.
So now 4 years later after 17 years of marriage, in a “sexual down” time my wife tells me she has lost interest in sex completely. She has zero sex drive in fact, tries to avoid it or even talking about it. Me on the other hand, I can count my lovers on one hand, I feel like I am ready for sex every day. What can I do? Is she burned out from her wild youth?
| Fri, 01-19-2007 - 6:04pm |
