My guy won't come without sex
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My guy won't come without sex
| Sat, 01-13-2007 - 4:29pm |
I'm holding off on sex with the guy I'm dating at the moment. We have an active sexual relationship up to, but exluding actual intercourse. He says I really turn him on and he seems really aroused when we get sexual but he never comes, even after a long time. He says he's just learned to not come before sex and that him getting off isn't that important because he's enjoying himself anyway. The thing is I still want to wait a while for sex but in the meantime he's servicing me amazingly and I can't return the favour. I haven't had trouble getting other guys off in the past, but I wonder if there's something I'm doing wrong, or not enough, or not well enough. Opinions and advice are appreciated.

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A young man can do it all night,
but it takes an old man all night to do it.
If this guy is under forty, I suggest he have a
physical check up to assure he doesn't have a medical problem.
and I too have seen no change in my equipment nor my libido.
In fact, my wife has always insisted that sex was the only thing that I ever had on my mind.
At the same time, there are various physical problems that a man can have that prevents him from ejaculation.
Not the least of which are issues with medication and alcohol.
I don't even get the statement "I'm holding off on sex, but we have an active sexual relationship". First of all, it's ALL sex, and all you're holding off is intercourse...and what's the difference? Most of the "other stuff" is really more intimate than intercourse will ever be.
As for your previous partners, you didn't "get them off"...they got themselves off. You don't give men a climax anymore than a man gives you an orgasm. You can "help" them get there, but they do it themselves.
No matter what you will do or not do, he's saying it's okay, so believe him. If it wasn't, he wouldn't come back for more.
but i do want to say this: you state that people get themselves off, that you dont get someone off and they dont get you off. well i think you must be doing it wrong or your partner is doing it wrong cuz my man gets me off like a m*ther f*cker!
My bad, I meant that for the OP, not you.....just put it under the wrong post!
As for your reply to me, it's only because you know HOW to do it. If you didn't (and many women don't) he could do exactly what he's doing now, and it wouldn't happen. He's "helping" you, but YOU are the one who allows it to happen. And vice versa, if your partner has a problem ejaculating, there is NOTHING you can do to make it happen. Our sexual response is up to US, not our partners.
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