Ladies, do you believe the hype?

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Registered: 01-18-2007
Ladies, do you believe the hype?
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Thu, 01-18-2007 - 9:48pm

I have recently seen articles talking about the popularity of women strapping on dildos and "doing" men. For example, Wendy Maltz M.S.W., an internationally recognized author and sex therapist, has an educational site to promote healthy sexuality where she list women's top ten fantasies, where she has at #2 "Strap me on, I'm going in" and says that, "By far, one of the most popular fantasies women have is being the man for one night... literally. They would like to act and dress up like a man, and I mean straight down to the penis. That's right, I'm referring to a strap-on penis." And noted best selling author Nancy Friday writes in "Women on Top" that, in contrast to the earlier generation, "these new women go a step further. They throw symbols aside and make no apologies for imaging themselves with the real thing. Throughtout this book women have been strapping on dildos, both in fact and fantasy". Nancy Friday even discusses women's fantasies of "raping"" and even "gangbanging" men.

What do you think of these writings? Do you think this is fact or fantasy? Appreciate comments from real women, not authors trying to sell books.

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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 1:59am
I think that most men wonder what it would like to be a woman at some time in their life. That doesn't mean that they want to be raped or even want to take on the female role during sex. Fantasy/curiosity has its place. Extreme views of what "women" and "men" want to do are intriguing and make good copy for writers and reporters eager to publish something that no-one-else has before. Take it all with a grain of salt. You don't need to dismiss any of it - but just review and consider it critically before believing any of it. I don't think that we're going to see any great "revolution" of women "doing" men in the near future.
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Registered: 01-17-2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 9:54am
I am a real woman and I would love to be a man for a day...penis and all. Id want the real deal though. I really wanna know what it feels like to be a man, what life and sex feel like. Sometimes I look at my BF and he's going out for a "skate"...29 yrs old and still on a skateboard. I mean I love that about him (skaters are sexy) yet it stikes me as strange. Also there are times during sex when I am enjoying myself but its not yet earth shattering for me yet he is making this face that tells me he is either in horrible agony or about to explode with pleasure (he tells me its the latter). I would love to be a guy for just 24 hours.......for the whole experience!
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Registered: 01-16-2007
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 12:15pm
While I am curious what an orgasm feels like for a man, the thought of "strapping one on and doing him" does not make me hot. Dressing up, role playing...yes. Role reversal....not so much. And to be truthful...if he wanted me to, I'd probably lose some attraction towards him. I hope no man ever asks me to do that. LOL
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 3:06pm

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 01-19-2007 - 4:38pm
No, this has never been a fantasy of mine ( unless it's broom handles, corn cobbs, any large, hard object and target pedophiles, child molestors, rapist and wife beaters to inflict the most horrible pain possible-does that count?).
Me and butts don't mix.
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Fri, 01-19-2007 - 5:42pm
Never in my whole adult life, have I ever had this fantasy. And whatsmore, none of the close female friends I've had has ever expressed that fantasy either. I think there are women who DO fantasize about it, but I hardly think it's a very common fantasy.
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 01-26-2007 - 1:56pm
My bet is that Wendy Maltz is trying to market a line of strap-ons. I have no desire to have a penis between my legs, unless it's inside me.
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Fri, 01-26-2007 - 2:38pm
Ouch!!
once.
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Fri, 01-26-2007 - 3:15pm
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Registered: 06-29-2006
Fri, 01-26-2007 - 4:11pm
I guess it was just a "gentle" visualization.
once.

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