handjobs - i want to get better
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handjobs - i want to get better
| Mon, 01-22-2007 - 2:12pm |
everytime i try to get my boyfriend off, my arms get tired too quickly. ive tried switching hands and sometimes using my mouth but any guy will tell you, its not the same sensation. im always so close but then my muscles give out! does anyone have any suggestions?? thanks!

Just because he's not finishing, it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. How you're doing it doesn't have that much to do with it......it's something holding him back. Lot's of guys don't respond to a girl because they're so used to doing it themselves. You could ask him if you're going to fast, too slow, too gently, to roughly....because all guys like it different....and he's the only one who knows how he likes it.
What do you mean using your mouth isn't the same sensation? Of course it's not, and if you ask any guy, most of them will prefer oral sex over manual sex ANY day! It could just be that your guy doesn't respond to anything but his own touch.
Whatever it is, don't blame yourself.....if it's taking so long that your arms hurt, then he's the one that has the problem, not you.
Just as an FYI, you don't "make" him finish, he allows himself to finish. He's enjoying what you're doing, but that's not all it takes.....it takes his mind to allow it to happen.
Hi
I think I responded to this same question on the SOLO board, but here is my suggestion. Check out the site: www.handjobadvice.com. It's a video with a girl using a dildo to demonstrate a handjob on a guy. Perhaps changing your technique will have him cumming.
Red Baron
I gave one of these hand jobs to my man on Sat and it took less then 7 minutes to make him a very happy man!
Hey
Couldn't agree more. There is only of you that knows the best way to get him off and that is him. Ask him to tell you what feels good if you are unsure. Better yet, have him show you, by putting his hand over yours as you do it. If you get tired, try doing oral for a time, then start the handjob again.
I have some tips for ya, now these may or may not work on him but give it a try.
1) Place your ring finger to the bottom of the shaft, your middle finger in the middle and index at the top.and wrap your thumb around the top towards the head (should be aligned with your index finger.)
2)grip it. Not too gently. the fundamental mistake women make is that when they grip a man's penis is that they grip too gently, rather like they like to be touched. Be firm. Think about it like a glass that you are holding that you don't want to slip.
3) Ask him if that feels good. Now guide your hand up and down, the action is actually in the wrist not your hand, your fingers should stay where they are.
Good Luck x