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swinging lifestyle
| Sat, 01-27-2007 - 12:45pm |
Has anyone here been in a swinging lifestyle, or open marriage. My husband and i have been for the past couple of years. We discussed it indepth before we started and thought we had all the answers to anything that would arise. We had a very strong and secure marriage, and it was fun at first. Then it got to be more of a chore, trying to find time for it and trying to hide it from friends and family. Well im just not into it anymore and told him so, he got really mad. I guess he thought we would do this forever. I feel like he doesnt care about my feelings anymore. I finally told him if he wanted to continue that he could without me, just so we could stop arguing, and he is just fine with that. I just feel like a crap! Anyone out there ever have this problem or am i the only stupid woman in this world?
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| Sun, 01-28-2007 - 10:37am |
My man and I tried it and you're right, it was work trying to find another couple we were compatable with. We found one and played once. It was kind of fun, but stressful really. It made me uncomfortable to see him with another woman, although he didn't have any problem watching me! (I think that's common). I would get agitated that he wanted to spend time online looking all the time and he finally said it wasn't worth the hassle with me, that it was just another experience and he would be fine if we never did it again, although I know he would like to. Did you set hard limits? Do you think if you laid some boundaries you would feel better? There are couples out there who would just like to play in the same room with you with their own spouses, or guys who just like to watch the girls play (most guys would be happy with that! lol) Maybe you should talk about what you really want and you will find a compromise. Good luck to you.
