Whats wrong with me?

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Registered: 01-27-2007
Whats wrong with me?
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Sat, 01-27-2007 - 10:13pm
WHY?? I want to know why I can never get myself in the mood or wet enough for him when I am with the guy of my dreams. When I'm not with him I think about him all the time wishing he was here so we could go at it. But when he is there and we start fooling around. Nothing. Its not there. everytime. Its like it shuts itself off and it just makes everything more difficult because when we do have sex he has to stop and like moisturize me with his salvia... which I don't mind but I don't know what wrong.... I know I'm attracted to him and he makes me want him soooo bad, but usually when we have clothes on.
Whats Wrong With ME?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sat, 01-27-2007 - 10:33pm

Are you wanting sex, you're in the mood


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Registered: 01-27-2007
Sat, 01-27-2007 - 11:06pm
Ya I want it. I want it more than he does.
Its probably nerves. I don't have alot of experience in this field. How do you get unnerved?
I used to be self-conscience with him because I don't have big features men usually like, but he told me he like everything.
Couldn't be menopause I'm young(19). But the Guy I'm seeing is close to twice my age. All those questions got me thinking. That I'm used to fantasing about older men. But when it comes to actually getting with one scares me and I guess I get nervous that he is just using me...Then I guess I also start thinking how this would look to other people with the age difference.
I've tried dating men closer to my own age, but I seem to be attracted to older men for some reason...
Thanks.
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sat, 01-27-2007 - 11:39pm
Being nervous makes you dry. Being dry makes you nervous. Simple solution, go buy some lubrication and use it. That will get you over being nervous about it, and eventually you won't need it.
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Registered: 01-31-2007
Wed, 02-07-2007 - 8:55pm
I kind of know what you are feeling. I am with the guy of my dreams and I am physically attracted to him. Very rarely will I show that I am turned on. Most of the time its in my head, but sometimes I will get a little wet. I also have the problem of not being able to come when he fingers me or whatnot. I feel it coming everytime but I just can't seem to let it out. I hate when this happens because he gets so frustrated, but so do I. I don't really know what to do about it. I'm scared I will never be able to come. Do you have this problem as well??
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Registered: 01-27-2007
Wed, 02-07-2007 - 9:38pm
Yeah That is kinda like what it is like. When he talks to me about doing stuff I get wet. I think... I have slimy stuff coming out when I go to the bathroom but when we are together its hard for him to get in and stay in. He tells me it is because I'm not wet enough. People relpied telling me to use a personal lubricant or something like that to help. But he hasn't touched me in almost 4 weeks. Haven't seen each other outside of work for 4 weeks. I kissed him two days ago at work but that was the most of our physical contact in 4 weeks. He says he has been really busy and has problems he needs to work out. I don't know if this is going to last very much longer. Thats for another board though. Sorry. Hope this helps you out.
Oh and the fingering thing does nothing for me too but he did it to try.