How to ask - what are the words?

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Registered: 01-23-2005
How to ask - what are the words?
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Mon, 02-05-2007 - 11:30am

When things get a little stale in the bedroom, how do others in this forum go about opening up the conversation with their SO? Details would be really useful.

I would like to try some different things, and some things we used to do a few years ago but have not done for a while, but not sure the best way of having the conversation with the wife without her either a) Pushing back, b) Digging in her heals or c) getting upset.

Should I do the TV off, on the sofa serious chat. Should it be over a meal over the dining table, or over a lot of wine to make the subject less sharp?

I mean, the thought of just turning around and saying, “Our sex is getting routine, why don’t you let me come on your face for a change to make things hot” just does not seem right.

Guys, how do you go about introducing these things (do you just do them in the spur of the moment and see what the reaction is?), women – would you prefer your man just to do it without the chat, or would you prefer the chat first which then puts you under pressure to do them?

Advice please.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 02-05-2007 - 3:55pm

I'm usually the one that initiates new things in our sex life.


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