returning the favor

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Registered: 02-04-2007
returning the favor
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Mon, 02-12-2007 - 6:13pm
My best friend just started dating this guy. They have known each other for a long time and have taken things slowly. Last night he gave her oral then got all in a huff about returning the favor. She hasnt been with anyone in 2 yrs and has been tested. She wants him to get tested first. He says he is clean. She knows he is trustworthy but there are diseases you can have without knowing it.I told her I think he shouldnt expect the favor to be returned regardless.WHat do you think!! Please help!!
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Registered: 08-11-2004
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 6:54pm

If she wanted him to get tested, then she should have suggested they both go get tested before ever getting to the point of taking clothes off with each other. He has no more way of knowing that he's clean than she does. How would he know that she hasn't been with someone since her last test?

She also should not have accepted oral sex unless she was willing to reciprocate. She didn't make any promises, but there's a certain expectation there once she accepted him performing oral on her. It must have made him feel pretty terrible, he does oral sex on her, and then she refuses to touch him and accuses him of having diseases.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 7:49pm
well i must say if he does have somthing who to say ya friend couldnt get it from him licking her i meen his spurm isnt only thing that can spread a deseas if she was worried about a desease she shouldnt do any thing till he and she in fareness was tested but receaving oral sex and she had to know he was wanting a payback theres not meany of us that just like to give more than we recieve me my self i wouldnt5 complained but there again if im not sure about the person if there clean i wouldnt take nore give seems kinda one sided i meen he could have hurpys with nothing showing in his mouth now she has them just for receiving just hope for ya friends sake the orgasm was worth it but thats just me
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Registered: 02-04-2007
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 11:00pm
SHe already has been tested and she brought this up to him a few weeks ago. Also i was 3 am and he new she had to get up and work at 5.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 02-12-2007 - 11:49pm
well i think after being ate by guy she not sure is safe or not its good idea to get rechecked its not safe to give or recieve if the other person not been tested she might not had any thing back then but ya can really say same thing now and i think she should told him before he whent to town that he wasnt geting any thing in return becouse she didnt feel he was safe IMO