Access Denied. What?

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Access Denied. What?
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 4:32pm

I've been sexually active for over a year and a half, and I've been having sex with the man I am with now for four months. I went over to his place last night, and we had sex. At least, we tried to.

He is really great at foreplay, which is always nice. After he gave me a couple of orgasms, he finally penetrated me. Ok, great. Great position, feels good. I orgasm and pop him out. Oops. This isn't something new. I'm a very small girl in general, and my vagina is very tight with strong muscles so I tend to eject his penis at least a few times during sex. The problem last night was that he couldn't get back in.

We tried for a while before he went back to fingering me to try to loosen me up. Generally, my muscles relax after I orgasm. Not last night. No, with every orgasm I just became tighter. It was rather irritating. I was wet, aroused, and ready to go, but no, my vagina decided not to open up.

He was very understanding about it, which is good, and, of course, I didn't let him go unsatisfied, but it doesn't make me feel much better about it. While I was there, he could barely get his finger into me. When I got home, I could barely get my finger in, and I'm still having trouble today. My hands are pretty small.

I've never had so much trouble having sex, not even when I lost my virginity. The only time I've had a little trouble was the first time he and I had sex it took a few minutes for me to relax enough to let him in. That shouldn't have been the problem last night.

Has anyone else ever had this problem occur so suddenly? Hopefully, I will loosen up a little sometime soon. I'm usually tight, but not THIS tight.