Overrated Sex

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Registered: 02-16-2007
Overrated Sex
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Fri, 02-16-2007 - 8:22pm

So for the last two or so years I've been having overrated sex. I think there's just not enough mental/physical chemistry to make it really good...anyway, I've come up with a few options I can go about, so if you could take a look at my blog and give me your opinion that would be great. Thanks

http://www.playgodwithmylife.com/?p=8

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Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: carliecarla
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 11:45pm

It sounds like you have a b/f that doesn't have a clue about women and their bodies. He doesn't MAKE you have orgasms.....that's up to you. What he DOES have to do is learn what to do to HELP you have orgasms, and intercourse isn't it for most women. He's not doing the right things, and you're doing nothing to teach him....just allowing him to do HIS thing, which is doing nothing for you.

Maybe it would help BOTH of you to learn about a woman's sexual responses. Check out www.the-clitoris.com and maybe both of you will learn something.

Sex isn't over-rated......but unless you have a man who knows your body, and you know your own body....it's not much more than a form of exercise. Good sex requires knowledge, and it requires communication with each other. Him thinking that thrusting for an hour is going to do it. You thinking that you should let him continue even though you're dry and in pain isn't going to do it either. If you don't stop him, and show him what you want, or tell him you're too dry to go on....shame on you!

Knowledge and communication is what makes sex good, and it sounds like you two don't have enough of either.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: carliecarla
Sat, 02-17-2007 - 9:41am

I agree with Sakura, the two of you need to start communicating and you need to start teaching him what you need.


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