I need tips for sex on top

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Registered: 11-22-2006
I need tips for sex on top
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Mon, 02-19-2007 - 3:56pm
My boyfriend and my sex life is great. I have no problem w/ trying different things (anal, toys, etc). The one problem is, I'm not comfortable having sex on top. I guess since i've started having sex, all my partners always spolied me and gave me what I wanted (sex w/ me on the bottom, with legs and body in different postions and doggie style always worked for me). I know my boyfriend gets tired and would like me to get on top so he can relax and do nothing for once, but i'm so awarked. When I go up and down just straddling it doesn' seem to work, i get worried about him slipping out. I also can't get down the art of thrusting on top. I've heard that moving in a figure eight feels good, but does it for him? The only postion that i feel comortable in is the reverse cowgirl, but that can get tiring and I want something. Please help! Thanks!
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Registered: 09-18-2005
Mon, 02-19-2007 - 7:19pm
i'm in the same boat! my bf is turned on by the girl-on-top thing but i feel weird about it too!
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Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 1:34am

You make it sound like it's a chore! If you learn to do it right, he'll have to fight you for top! WOT isn't going to "do it" for many men, but that doesn't mean they can't just lay there and enjoy watching you! That's what most men like about it, they can relax for a while, and watch YOU enjoying yourself.

First, don't squat on your heels. Your thighs won't last very long that way. Get on your KNEES....and don't try to imitate him by up and down and in and out. Just get comfortable, and slowly and sensuously grind against him in a circlular motion. You can throw in some hip thrusts for variety. If you get it right, you're getting clitoral stimulation, and you might even get some "g" spot action....and for many women, that will cause ejaculation, too.

You weren't "spoiled" by your former b/f's, you were cheated if they didn't encourage you to try it!

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Registered: 12-19-2006
Tue, 02-20-2007 - 9:41am
I know that some people here say that guys don't orgasm when you are on top, it's for you.....well, it works both ways in the relationships that I have been in. If you are afraid that he will fall out, move back and forth or in a circular motion instead of up and down. This way, you feel him better and get better stimulation to all of your hot spots. If you really want to ride up and down, try putting pillows on either side of him and putting your knees on them. This will raise you a bit and take some of the stress off of your knees. Another thing you can do is arch slightly backward and use your hand for support behind you. If you want to give him a real show, use your other hand to stroke your clitoris or rub your breasts. If you are going to try reverse cowgirl, have him bend one knee so that your clitoris is stimulated by his leg. Also, it can be easier to use your PC muscles when you are on top -- combined with the visual and the feel, it's all good for both of you.