Isnt sex just GREAT!?! lol & g-spot ?

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Isnt sex just GREAT!?! lol & g-spot ?
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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 11:36am

Geez, just had THE best sex session last nite. I see this guy casually, about a couple times a week. Sort of a FWB, but a LITTLE more than that i guess.


He LOVES to give me oral. & use his fingers inside me. I have a very active g-spot & definatly ejaculate, a LOT. Soaking the bed.

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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 11:56am

Congratulations on great sex last night!

I do find that clitoral and g-spot orgasm are different. When I have a clitoral orgasm, I usually become very sensitive afterwards and do not like continued stimulation until I have recovered. With a g-spot orgasm, seems I never need a break. It's just a different kind of sensation, it can definitely last longer, but it never becomes too sensitive to keep going. It's almost like they start rolling into one another. The liquid also never seems to disappear. (It would seem that at some point I would run out of the liquid, but haven't so far.)

As far as having an orgasm during masturbation, I'm in that club of people who don't seem to be able to get there with fingers. It's a mental block -- feeling my own fingers touching me, my brain senses at both places. Since my fantasies usually include someone else touching me, I think my brain can't relax enough to separate reality, lol. I use a vibrator or the shower massage when masturbating. While it doesn't bother me, my DH does want me to be able to masturbate with my fingers -- for him to watch. Thus far he's pretty content with me using my fingers during intercourse to stimulate my clitoris, but he also enjoys me using a vibe during that time (the entire concept of watching me pleasure myself in anyway does it for him).

I'm not sure why you are having trouble during oral. I usually do have great orgasms during that time, sometimes just clitoral, and other times, combined with a g-spot orgasm.

Have you tried having your clitoris stimulated during intercourse? That works great for an orgasm with or without g-spot stimulation. My favorites are the ones that combine both types of orgasms. Talk about a feeling that takes over your entire body, yet lasts for what seems like an eternity, there is just nothing else I have ever found to compare! If he's not stimulating you, or you are too shy to stimulate yourself, why not use a vibe during sex? He can also combine it with oral for another great pleasure!



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Fri, 08-17-2007 - 10:50pm
I really enjoy G-Spot O's over clitoral ones, actually. For me, they are much more satisfying and fulfilling. Like Misty said, I seem to be able to go on and on with G-Spot O's but not with clitoral ones. Have you ever tried combining the two? Maybe that will help you feel more satisfied with your G O's.

 

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Sat, 08-18-2007 - 11:14pm
The trouble with oral sex and clitoral orgasms is that your BF would have to bear down on your clitoris and move real fast side to side/up and down in order for you to orgasm and most men either dont want to or have the stamina to do that.
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 8:24am

Welcome to the board snafu2006.

I'm sorry to hear that you haven't had good luck with your BFs and oral sex. I can definitely say "there ARE guys out there who love to perform oral sex, and orally encouraged clitoral orgasms are plentiful"! I put that in quotes, and you can feel free to quote me!

I have found many women here that only have orgasms through oral sex, and I can say that I have had several lovers that are rather well skilled at allowing me to achieve an orgasm through oral sex.

I think you gave a great example in your post of what works for you during oral, but each person is different. That's why it's great for a woman to know how her body reacts to stimulation and feels free to share that with her lover. If it does take too long to have an orgasm during oral sex, instead of wearing the guy out, he can take breaks along the way and provide other types of stimulation with his fingers, penis or toys. Some guys will also get their SO worked up before beginning oral -- that way, she's already more than half way there when he starts. Some guys will also go down on their SO after intercourse, especially if he has had an orgasm and she still has not.



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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 10:01am
Uhhh, I never said that. I was posting to newlyfree06 about HER situation. If I meant to reference me, then I would have included "me" in the statement. Unless I specifically mention myself, please dont read into anything because I could be referencing other women that I know or have spoken to. Sorry that you put all that effort into your reply. Maybe someone can benefit from it.


Edited 8/19/2007 10:07 am ET by snafu2006
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 10:17am

I don't mind the effort that I put into my reply, and I'm sure others will benefit from it.

The problem with posting on a public forum is that anyone can read the replies and in doing so, they can interpret them in many different ways. My concern was that someone would read your reply and think it was the norm. In my experience, as indicated in my reply, it clearly is not.

I think that was the important part of the message, not whether it pertained to your particular situation or not. Since you were giving instructions of what her BF would have to do, I did assume this is what you need in order to enjoy a clitoral orgasm during oral sex. Sorry if it caused any hard feelings for you.



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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 10:33am
*The trouble with oral sex and clitoral orgasms is that your BF would have to bear down on your clitoris and move real fast side to side/up and down in order for you to orgasm and most men either dont want to or have the stamina to do that.*

Beg to disagree. This man, for one, is both willing and able to bring my partner to orgasm through oral sex.

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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 4:26pm
No hard feelings here. I just didnt want to be misunderstood. Interesting how you mention what the norm is because from conversations with women over the last 25 years (I'm 45) there seems to be a consensus that men do not know how to go down on a woman or how to appropriately stimulate a clitoris in that fashion. Women have always been brutally honest with me or any of the women sitting at the table about that subject. I know that it is perceived that it is easier for a woman to orgasm during oral sex versus intercourse. And that may be so, for some women, not all...at least not the women I have encountered. A lot of women do fake orgasms so maybe it is just easier for women to fake during oral sex so they say that they have an easier time during oral sex. But, like you said, different strokes for different folks
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 4:31pm
I was simply providing newlyfree06 with a suggestion. I'm very happy for you. I said "most men", I didnt say "all men" and I certainly wasnt referring to you.
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 9:50pm
snafu....I am going to disagree with you, have you been with most men?
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