uncircumsizd penis? I need advice.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
uncircumsizd penis? I need advice.
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Sat, 08-18-2007 - 10:47pm
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and have yet to see his penis. He has an uncircumsized penis and to be honest i'm a little afraid of when that time might come up. He is my first boyfriend with a penis like this and I don't know how to treat it. I know that at times you can hurt it by pulling the foreskin a wrong way and I don't want to hurt him. I'm worried that when I give him oral everything will go wrong. Do i pull the foreskin back? Do I have to caress it differently?

If someone has a boyfriend with an uncircumsized penis can you help me out please? I am very new at this and I want to give my boyfriend a little pleasure now and then.

Thank You
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Registered: 08-15-2007
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 12:19am

tell him to get it circumsized, LOL, just kidding, i and sorry but i can't help ya there, however, i don't think the techinque is that much different, i wouldn't worry about it too much, HOWEVER when it comes to oral, i hear he has to be very clean b/c if he isn't gunk can build up in the head, that would not be pleasant

i sure you'll be fine though, Kudos on waiting a awhile!!!!

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 12:22am

There is VERY LITTLE difference in a circumcized penis and an uncircumsized one. Once he's erect, that extra skin will almost disappear. You can hurt a circumcized guy just as easily as one who's not. It's not the pulling of the foreskin that will hurt, it's the pulling of the "frenulum".....which is the kind of "cord" that connects the foreskin at the underside of the penis.

Other than pulling on the frenulum, and biting him, there's not much you can do to hurt him. What you need to do is ask HIM what he likes. Cut or uncut, all guys like it somewhat different. Some like you to hold it gently, others like it held tight. Some like you to move fast, others like it slow. I knew a guy who liked to feel teeth! There's really not much you can do to hurt him....if you're gentle. Do what you know how to do, and then ask him if he'd like it different. He'll be very happy to tell you.

Other than that little bit of extra skin.....it's the same as a cut one.

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 7:03am
I am an uncut male, and it sounds to me like you're making a mountain out of something that won't turn out to be a big deal. There's very little difference between how you should treat a cut versus an uncut penis. The foreskin should retract naturally once he's aroused. If you are stroking him, just pay attention to how far it retracts, and don't try and keep going once it stops moving, and you'll be fine.

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Edited 8/19/2007 7:07 am ET by bostonsteve
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Registered: 02-28-2006
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 7:06am
Any partner who told me to get circumcised would be shown the door very quickly. There are plenty of women out there who appreciate what an uncut man has to offer, and who wouldn't require him to surgically mutilate himself in order to satisfy her sense of decorum.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 7:56am

Welcome to the board sidney3642.

I think you are worrying about something that is probably not even going to happen (hurting him). I'm sure you will be able to gauge his pleasure, and he will let you know if there is any pain. Any guys penis has sensitive parts, may be more sensitive after a round or two of sex, etc. Since all guys are born with foreskins, I think you can feel fairly confident that pain isn't a common occurrence during sexual activity. Circumcision hasn't been around forever, and is currently more common in some cultures.



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Registered: 07-05-2004
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 1:24pm
Hey there, my guy is not circumcized, and I assure you there is nothing to worry about. It is just a little bit of extra skin, it should slide back with very little effort once things get going. And believe me, it does not hinder his sexual ability at all. Just don't act like it's a big deal or poke fun at it when you see it, obviously, lol.
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 4:36pm
Hi Sydney,
I am an uncircumcised male. The foreskin of all males is not the same length. Mine is 3 inches long and does not pull back when I get an erection. When the guy bathes, he should be pulling the foreskin back and washing under it so there should not be a problem with anything accumulating under it. There are males who have a foreskin that does not pull back. The outer end of their foreskin does not stretch enough to go over the glans but that is another problem. With the length of my foreskin, using a condom can be a problem because the tissue of the penis slides back and forth in the skin which causes the condom to want to come off all the time or if I pulled the foreskin all the way back first, the penis would slide forward in the skin and I would have problems with condoms breaking. There is nothing special that you have to do EXCEPT makes sure that his foreskin will pull back over the glans without a problem. Partners I have had stated that there was no difference in sex with their other partners and me. Have fun and if you have any specific questions, do not be afraid to ask anything.
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Registered: 05-30-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 6:25pm
why would she tell her boyfriend she obviously loves to get circumsized?? thats a very shallow thing to say.

-srm

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Registered: 02-17-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 10:59pm
My first BF was uncut and it's actually IMO easier to play with. I actually prefer an uncut man, but all my bf's since him have been cut. It's really not that different, though. You'll be just fine. :)

 

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Registered: 08-15-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:17pm
are so unperseptive to realize i was joking? duh!!!, i think you can see by how i worded it was a joke,(that part of it anyway) lighten up dude!