Deep thrusting and burning

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-05-2006
Deep thrusting and burning
3
Sat, 08-18-2007 - 11:10pm

I have a little explaining to do first.

Okay, I've had sex with my bf about 10 different times. We always do it in the me on top position because he's over weight so it hurts his back to lean over me etc...and so he's always done all of the work when I've been on top, because he just wanted to cum and I'm still a newbie with the position so I have been fine with it that way.

Well, just yesterday we decided I would help do the work while on top instead of him always doing the thrusting, I've learned the moves/motion of how to do it in that position. Well, since it was my first time doing that, I'm pretty sure that we did some really deep thrusting, if that make sense, because I was able to thrust with him instead of me just sitting there letting him do all of the work before.

I feel like I did the very first time we had sex, when my hymen was broken, except without the bleeding. I'm really sore. My legs are sore, my vagina is sore, and I have some burning when I go pee. It's not like a bladder infection burning, it's the skin by my vagina that burns as the pee runs down it, and I think it's from the penis rubbing on my skin from all the deep thrusting. Is it possible that deep thrusting could make my stomach hurt too? He is also very big for me because I'm really tight.

I'm afraid that it's going to hurt like this all the time now, from deep thrusting of both of us doing it now. Or do you think it won't hurt as much next time?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-15-2007
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 12:12am

it does get better, but you might want to use some lubricate next time like ky jel, it helps also, however never use vasoline or lotions

hope this helps
Kayleigh

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 9:54am

Congratulations on mastering your moves!

During deep thrusting, it's likely that he's bumping into your cervix, especially if he's on the larger size. That can bruise you and you may feel it for a couple of days. If you don't like the feeling, you can alter your position or thrusting to stop him from penetrating you so deeply. The more straight up you are, the more deeply he will penetrate, so you could try leaning forward or lying on him. Also, you do not have to bounce up and down, you could try different movement (circular, back and forth, etc.) to provide pleasure, and if you do bounce, don't pull out so far or go down so deeply.

The burning could be from a slight scratch, little tear, razor burn or you could just have irritation from a lot of vigorous sex. Instead of wiping with toilet tissue, try dabbing the area to avoid further irritation. The burning should go away within a couple of days, but if you are experiencing this longer than you definitely want to have it looked at for possible infection. Also, if it happens every time you have sex (or nearly every time) then try adding some extra lube prior to intercourse.

Your legs will feel sore as you are using a different set of muscles than you are used to using. The more often you have sex in this position, the more you will strengthen those muscles. As a result, you'll be able to last longer and you won't feel the pain. Also, it's easier if you are on your knees (feet tucked beneath you) than on your feet (bouncing like a frog). Since you mentioned your guys is larger, you could also try placing a pillow on either side of him to rest your knees on. This will raise you a little bit and give you some extra cushion.

Since you're concentrating on WOT positions, here are some links where you might find some new, creative things to do while you're up there!

Our Favorite WOT Sex Positions
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,askmen_bzmmks1k,00.html

You on top: The sexiest mattress moves of all: http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/sex/no/articles/0,,426380_500115,00.html

Hot tips for women on top:
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,drpatti_72j6,00.html



Photo Sharing and Video Hosting at Photobucket

Photo Sharing and Video Hosting at Photobucket




follow me to

my partner in the siggy exchange





iVillage Member
Registered: 07-05-2006
Sun, 08-19-2007 - 12:12pm

Thanks a lot!

I don't really mind the feeling after sex, and I know I will eventually get used to it once my muscles strengthen there and I use them more. I did notice that being straight up instead of laying down on him makes it go in deeper, he sometimes pushes me up straight to get in deeper. I enjoy laying down on him and doing the moves with him! I also lay on my knees too not on my feet!

The burning is starting to go away like usual. I think it's actually from the deep penetration that I haven't had before and my lips got moved further apart, because I noticed if I stretch them apart with my fingers that's when it starts to burn.

Thanks for all the great info!