I Faked It
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| Tue, 08-21-2007 - 6:49pm |
Some questions for ya'll. My boyfriend and I have been fooling around the past couple of months, we haven't had sex, but I'd say we've covered a lot of territory on both our bodies. My BF hasn't given me an orgasm yet and last night he'd been playing with me for so long his hand started cramping and I was a bit sore down there so I decided to fake an orgasm. I'm completely open with my BF, but for some reason I can't ask/tell him what I need to be completely satisfied in bed. I don't know, maybe I'm trying to hard, but I want a real climax darn it. I'm curious if ya'll have any advice for how to get over that hump of saying what you really want.
The other thing is, I'm wondering if anyone has ever experienced this. My BF likes to rub my clitoris and my body (legs mostly) start shaking. I'm curious if this is the beginning of an orgasm and I should relax and let it happen, or if its some other odd release.
Okay, no I lied, one last thing, I promise. My BF has also finger penetrated me and I can start feelin' a vaginal rush, but nothing ever comes of it. Is this a job for a penis rather than a hand??
Well, that's all for now. I'm sure I'll be back seeing as I'm just beginning to find my inner sexual godess :)

Welcome to the board wantknowledge, and best wishes at unlocking your inner sexual goddess.
Since you are asking questions about what an orgasm feels like, I'm thinking I'm fairly safe in assuming you haven't had an orgasm through masturbation either. Knowing your own body and how it reacts to stimulation is really the best way to learn. You can then share this information with your BF in several different ways. While you can talk to him, you can also guide his hands. Saying things like "right there", "don't stop" or "that feels soooooo good" are all encouraging words that you can use to let him know when he is doing something right.
Shaking legs, flush feeling, being fingered and having your clitoris rubbed are all things that sound like part of a "possible" orgasm to me. A great website that you should review is www.the-clitoris.com. You might want to have your BF look at it too. It has a tremendous amout of info about your body and the types of stimulation you need to have an orgasm as well as different types of orgasms.
Faking an orgasm cheats both of you. I'm sure your BF would like nothing more than to help you achieve an orgasm -- but it's not something he can "give" you. It's really up to you to have an orgasm, and it starts in your mind. You need to learn how to allow yourself to have an orgasm, how to recognize an orgasm and learn how to capture it. Many women never have orgasms, and worrying about having an orgasm is counterproductive.
Here are a few articles that you might also find helpful:
Know Thyself: The Female Form 101
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexsolo/0,,traceycox_b6vtmjv3,00.html
Why can’t I have an Orgasm?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,drruth_qr4q,00.html
Help! I’ve never had an orgasm
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexorgasm/0,,drpatti_216,00.html
Also, stick around and visit the board. Read other posts and ask questions of your own. It's a great way to learn more.
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Hi Misty,
I feel like I know my body pretty well, although there is always room for growth. Not to get too in-depth here, but through "handy work" of my own I do orgasm, so I know what is usually feels like, but this other feeling is just soooo much more intense than what I've experienced before, not to mention the shaking thing. Anyway.
Thanks for all the info, I'm sure I can put it to good use. I will check out what others are asking and talking about to see what else I can learn in this new stage of my adventure. :)