Anal Sex, willing to try, need advice

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Registered: 07-01-2007
Anal Sex, willing to try, need advice
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 5:34pm

Okay, I have a few questions.

My DH recently told me of the anal fantasy, I am willing, but nervous, not about pain, I know to use lube, but do you "prepare" prior to having it? Enema? If not will he get dirty? I don't mean to be gross, just that is the main thing "holding" me back, I don't want him to get out, and be grossed out? HELP!!!

Also, I read alot about BJ and giving him the finger during the oral, again, won't my finger get dirty? This may sound dumb, but it is something I am needing to know before I do or have it done!

TIA.

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Registered: 08-22-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 7:10pm

I certainly wouldn’t eat anything heavy for dinner before trying anal sex.

In all seriousness, think about it, it’s not like the feces sits right down there but I wouldn’t recommend oral afterwards either. I tried it a few times with my ex-husband and I would be more concerned about the pain involved. Just a little advice…. don’t let him cum in you back there.

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Registered: 07-01-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:26pm
what happens if he does?
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:30pm
I don't think anything happens if he does....I've never had anal...sit tight...someone will be here soon to answer your question...
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:41pm

Some people do use enemas prior to anal. I've heard it recommended by them that you empty the solution out and replace it with a small amount of warm water. Others just recommend that you have a shower and make sure you are clean.

If you're concerned about the mess, have him use a condom. It makes clean up easier, and keeps him protected from UTI's in the event he encounters bacteria. Anytime you have anything inserted in your anus, it must be cleaned prior to being put anywhere else (mouth, vagina). The bottom line is YES, it can get messy back there, but if it is messy, it's usually a very small amount of mess. Same with your finger. They sell finger cots that work like a condom on your finger as well. You can find them in the first aid section of any pharmacy. If you're worried about the mess, you can try using those.

I haven't had anal sex for years, but when I did, he did ejaculate inside of me. It can make your bowels loose the next day, but other than that, it didn't cause any kind of problem at all. BTW, there was never a mess, and we did nothing to prepare for it beforehand.



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Registered: 08-16-2006
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 7:29am
A another small tip that will help alot as silly as it sounds just as he is going to enter you push out like you are having a bowel movement, it makes it alot easier and less painfull going in, works for him also.
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 7:38am

We've been having anal play and anal sex for many years.

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Registered: 08-22-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 7:04pm
Well in my experience it was like having diarrhea afterwards. I know people who love it, I guess it was just not for me.