Duration of intercourse?

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Registered: 04-23-2007
Duration of intercourse?
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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 9:32pm

I am confused on some of the stuff and surveys/polls I have read in the past. Some people/polls say that intercourse lasts anywhere from 15 to 30 minutes and other articles say that the men on average last about 3 minutes. In talking to a couple of girlfriends they agree with the 3 minutes, more than the 30 minutes. Which is right?

I personally like it for about 5 minutes and then I start to get a little bit tender and have had enough.

Let us know your preference.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 9:44pm

I would say that 10 minutes was about the longest that intercourse lasted for most of my life, most of my relationships. Our sex life has made some drastic changes over the past year, and part of that has been hubbies ability to last for a very long time during intercourse or any sexual act. I did answer in your survey, but I would estimate our current average to be between 20 and 30 minutes for intercourse.

It seems when we get sexual lately, it's never over in under an hour, and it often lasts a lot longer. Of course, we're not having intercourse the entire time, but there is a good bit of that too.



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Registered: 07-23-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 1:54am
I am 37 and my GF is 23. We usually have intercourse for at least 45 minutes(with foreplay it's easily over an hour). What's nice is today it was about 10 minutes of incredibly hard sex and we both orgasmed and loved it.
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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 6:59am

It depends on the man.

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Registered: 05-11-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:35am

My guy is pretty much the same as issy's is. He can go as long as he has the stamina to continue although if he holds back ejaculating for too long (over an hour) a lot of times he won't be able to ejaculate but since he can orgasm without ejaculating its not a big problem with him. One thing about a man learning this technique is that he can have several orgasms during a lovemaking session. At least my SO does this. He'll have 4 or 5 that he calls 'little orgasms' in an hours time. As long as he doesn't ejaculate he can orgasm over and over. I bet if more men realized this there would be a lot more of them trying to learn this type of control!

But typically, after being in seven long-term relationships (not counting my SO now), most men last between 3 and 15 minutes. I only had one other lover whom I lived with that could contol himself the way my SO can now.

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Registered: 11-09-2006
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 11:03am
My DH can last for as long as we both want. He also will have the little orgasms without ejaculating during. I don't really get sore or tender

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Registered: 12-28-2006
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 4:19pm
Do you use lube, a good quality lube may help. Personally I like going for as long as possible and many times it is well in excess of 30 minutes. I know if she feel discomfort she will ask that I use more lube.
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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 5:03pm

It all depends on the individual man, his level of experience, his health and I would imagine his sexual lifestyle ( that would include how often he has IC with a partner or MB's as well as how long it's been since he ejaculated ). Men who MB in excess often have trouble climaxing during IC whether that be climaxing at all or climaxing too soon. Drugs and alcohol often has a negative impact on climax ability too.

My experience with my mate is 20-30 minutes is our average for IC and that doesn't include foreplay. I can get sore from excessive IC even with plenty of lubricant if we continue past my comfort level. DH and I agree that if he's unable to O and I'm getting tired, we have "outer sex". DH gets to choose whether he wants to finish between my breast or my thighs. Either place, he can thrust rather hard, not have to worry about hurting me and it gets the job done and both of us are satisfied.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:19pm

I suppose that we average 3-5 minutes for the actual intercourse most of the time. Usually my wife has come once or twice before the intercourse and if she gets on top then it's all over pretty quickly (and being on top is her favourite position). We actually joke about being so quick all the time. It's the one position where I can't control my orgasm and where she can make me (and herself) cum within a couple of minutes every time.

I suppose that if she isn't on top we'd average 5-6 minutes and often go longer. It would be rare for us to go longer than 20 minutes of actual intercourse though.

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Registered: 02-17-2007
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:52pm
My first BF and most recent ex averaged about 1-2hours of actual intercourse. All of the other men I've been with were/are around 10-30 mins.