MY VERY FIRST TIME!!!!
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| Mon, 08-27-2007 - 5:49pm |
Ok here is the deal. My “friend” and I have great sex together and it has been going on for about a year now. He has an extremely large member and loves anal sex well I do too but I am not too receptive of it because he is so large. Well Saturday night we started off like we normally do but this time I was a little drunk ok a lot drunk. I starting by rimming him and his is the first guy that I ever did that to or even let me come anywhere near that area of his body. Not many black men will just allow you to do that to them, well I started off slowly but eventually eased my finger tip inside him and he enjoyed it from what I could tell by this time he has turned over on all fours so I gently put two fingers in him he started really responding to that by pushing back onto my fingers. I stroked him, sucked him, and eventually he came which turned me on more than anything. He got up right after he finished and said that wasn’t right he shouldn’t cum off of that but I could tell he really enjoyed it. My thing is I think he might think that was kind of “gay” that he enjoyed that. I would love to continue to do it and even eventually work my way up to a strap on to me that was the best sex we EVER had and it is pretty hard to top that because he is good at what he does. In your opinion should I discuss this with him? Should I let him know that I don’t see him any differently and that I actually have more respect for him that he would allow me to experience that with him instead of suppressing it and end up like most black me who are scared to admit what feels good and become “DL”. I really like this guy and we are soon moving together I am very glad he let me explore him like that sexually and I cannot wait to attempt to do it again. This is a hard subject for me to talk to my friends about because they will think he is gay but I know the truth.
Please just help me out give me some opinions, what would you do?
PS. I loved the power of what I was doing I felt in control of what was going on and even to this moment I am still getting very excited about what happend.

Welcome to the board kayfaith3, and thanks for sharing your story.
I think you should talk to him about what happened and about how you feel about it. Ease his mind and help him realize that it's not "gay". Just as women enjoying anal sex isn't "gay" -- both sexes have similar nerve endings there, and guys have the added benefit of the prostate.
I'm not sure why you discussed some of the issues you brought up in your original post. One of the reasons why people think enjoying anal stimulation might be "gay" is because of stereotypical labels. When you talk to him, your message shouldn't be about his race anymore than it is about the act being gay as that just adds more of the labels.
Focus on how it made you feel to be able to share this with him. How much you enjoyed his reaction, and how you want to continuing sharing this with him.
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Glad to hear you had such a great time together! He may not feel it was "gay" of him, but rather slightly embarrassed at his bodies reaction to it. It's a new feeling for him and entirely different from any other! I guess the easiest thing to compare it to is orgasming for the first time in front of a person. You just feel more vulnerable. I would just keep doing it, like you are, and let him know how hot it makes you and how sexy you think it is!
My BF loves anal play, and he was really hesitant at first. He said that no other girls ever wanted to play with him there and that he was afraid I would think he was gay. I just had to tell him that there are a lot of guys who enjoy it and it is not at all gay! Plus it gets me super hot, just like you, so he has nothing to worry about how I'll feel towards him.