Was this strange
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| Wed, 08-29-2007 - 5:12pm |
or was it just me?
I just got out of a sexual relationship with a man unlike any I have ever been with before. The first time we had sex, his version of foreplay was a lot of kissing and touching. It was very light touching, sensual, but he didn't really play with my breasts and nothing below the waist.
And the foreplay went downhill from there. I actually had a conversation with him about it, and he said that he does like foreplay, but he finds it to be a very intimate thing.
This continued for two months and really never got anything more. I did try to discuss it with him again near the end, but I never pushed the issue. I did provide him with it, and that was because I wanted to. I was not expecting anything in return, but it might have been nice.
Is this a common occurrance?

I don't think it's common at all, but there are men who don't understand that foreplay is necessary to make your experience better.
You refer to this as a "sexual relationship", so was that the common purpose for both of you? It sounds like he definitely viewed it that way. By saying that he liked foreplay but considered it to be "very intimate" shows that he was only concerned with taking care of his own needs.
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No, I termed it sexual because it had moved into that realm. We were dating.
I generally had an issue with him around the world revolving around his needs and his moods. I think this was just another category.
I guess I was just a bit taken aback because he was married for 8 years and in the 2 years since his divorce he has had a number of girlfriends. One would have thought this would have come up with one of them??
Since you say he had several GFs in the 2 years since his divorce, it's likely that this has come up in other relationships.
Since you say you are no longer with him, what are you trying to figure out? Seems he had some bad habits and a very selfish side. As for if it's a "normal occurrence" for a guy to be this way, I would say not if he wants to keep a GF.
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It probably did come up before and that might be why the other women are no longer with him.