A moment of ED - feeling inadequate
Find a Conversation
A moment of ED - feeling inadequate
| Wed, 08-29-2007 - 11:37pm |
I was with my AP and giving him a blow job. We were in his car. He started to give me "instructions" on how he wanted it done, even though we had done it many times before and there was never a problem. I wanted to please him and I said, "Tell me what you want me to do" and he was trying to show me and I was trying and suddenly he just said, "no, no this isn't going to work." (or something to that effect). I felt terrible and still do. We talked about it afterward. He felt bad too and claims it was because he was worried about a car in the parking lot and I said I thought there was someone else and I wasn't "adequate". We haven't seen each other since for many reasons, but it still bothers me. I've only had that happen maybe twice in my 47 years. Is it me? Is it him? Could it be he was thinking of someone else and thinking "she's not doing it like so and so"?

Erections have a mind of their own.....and rarely is it because the partner is "inadequate". He lost the moment......and that could have been for many reasons.....if he thought someone was watching that would certainly do it.
Erections don't go away because there's someone else, either. Nervousness, worry, stress.....fear of being caught....there are lots of reasons why it could have happened.....least likely because you did anything wrong.
Welcome to the board applepie60.
I'm not sure why you would think he might be thinking of someone else, but in all likelihood, he wasn't. If he was worried about another car in the parking lot seeing the two of you, and he was trying to give you directions -- seems his mind was plenty occupied right there.
follow me to
my partner in the siggy exchange
Welcome to the board sassy5362. It can be very frustrating for both of you to deal with ED. I'm putting a link here to a post I did a while back. There are a lot of sources for information on ED.
Understanding Erectile Dysfunction (ED)
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=19896.1
Also, here's another post that you might find helpful too.
How to React to His Performance Problems
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlletstalkab&msg=20531.1
follow me to
my partner in the siggy exchange