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Orgasm question
| Wed, 09-05-2007 - 11:09pm |
Hi everyone!
So I've only slept with two men in my life (I'm 21) and I just started experiencing an orgasm through intercourse.
I'm curious because for the whole 8 months with my ex, I did not orgasm once through sex. My current boyfriend and I have been together just 3 months and he makes me orgasm everytime. It feels like he's hitting somewhere my ex didn't... or is it just mental? Maybe I'm more into my current boyfriend?

I will comment from a male's point of view. You will probably get a better reply for the ladies. Here goes..
My wife was never able to orgasm with her previous boyfriend. As our relationship progressed she eventually was able to orgasm with me. I would love to chest beat and tell you I was bigger than the other guy, I am very much average. Not small but not big either. I felt like it was more of a trust (emotional thing , rather than a physical thing) My penis size and technique did not change. She began to open up and enjoy it more than before.
I would say you have stronger feelings for your current lover and trust the partner more. You are able to relax and enjoy sex more. That is only my observation.
Orgasms are as much mental as they are physical......particularly vaginal orgasms. 80% of women don't have vaginal orgasms. He doesn't "make" you have orgasms....he's doing the right thing to help you have them.....whatever that may be.....but you're the one that allows them to happen.
It's more than likely that you're more "in tune" with this b/f than the last, you're happier with him, you trust him more, or some major difference that makes you more comfortable with him, and makes you more able to let go and allow yourself to enjoy what you're doing.
Another part of it is simply "maturing" sexually.
Maybe you're more aroused by this BF, maybe you're more relaxed during sex with him, maybe, maybe, maybe....
There's really no way to tell why it's happening, and it's more than likely a combination of things. One thing for sure is it isn't all him. While each lover will bring their own uniqueness to a relationship, you have to be in the right place (mentally) to appreciate it. Some sexual experiences are just better than others, even with the same lover. Whatever is going on, don't try to over think it, or you might end up bringing it to a screeching halt.
Congratulations on finding this new joy! You're in a minority as far as women being able to orgasm during intercourse ;-)