A weird question

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A weird question
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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 4:58am

Hi everyone, just wanted to see if anyone else has any idea about what I'm about to describe.

OK, my wife and I have always had a good sex life since we were married, great sex with my only complaint being that we've never really had enough of it.

Now back in July, I was put in a situation where I guess you could say I was tempted. Thankfully, I absolutely did the right thing which is to say, nothing. Around the middle of July I decided to have a clean up. I decided that what I wanted to do was to concentrate ALL of my sexual desires on my wife, meaning that I destroyed my pornography collection. Porn had always been a little bit of a nice sideline enjoyment for me but I came to the decision in the middle of July that I was going to 'quit' porn.

So I literally destroyed all my DVDs (which I think was symbolic as oppose to giving them away) and have since never even so much as looked at a porn website.

I dodn't if it was God's way of rewarding me for not succumbing to temptation, and perhaps also for 'quitting' porn, but this summer my wife and I have never had so much sex, and it's been absolutely wonderful.

My own sexual desire, which was fairly high anyway has now sky-rocketed and I seem to be horny most of the time. But lately, within the last month, I've had something happen to me once or twice which has been very embarassing and very uncomfortable.

Let me describe what will happen in these cases. I'll be out at work, or doing the shopping or something, I'll be walking without a care in the world when suddenly, without even having an erection, I get the same feeling that I get when I'm about to cum!

Like I said, it's been highly embarassing and uncomfortable. Thankfully, I've never actually cum or anything but that's not to say that it hasn't felt like I was about to! There was one time in the supermarket about a month and a half ago when I literally felt like I was seconds from completely blowing my load! I was even fully ready to fake a stroke or something, or collapse on the floor so at least it would look like I was ill and I wouldn't look like a freak or anything!

Has anyone ever heard of this thing happening? It's not even a case that I 'play with myself' before going out but just don't cum, no, I leave the house as normal and then suddenly, out of nowhere, I feel as if I'm about to cum right there and then.

I'm wondering if it's to do with my increased sexual libido? I'm also wondering if by not looking at porn anymore I've got rid of a good outlet for my extra sexual desire?

Like I said, it's only happened to me about 3 or 4 times, but that to me is 3 or 4 times too many!

Help!

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Registered: 02-13-2006
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 8:58am
I would go see a doctor in your case.
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Fri, 09-07-2007 - 9:12am

Did your wife ever complain about the porn, or was she even aware that you had it? You said you had a great sex life even when you were looking at it on a fairly regular basis.

Now enters "temptation"......and you took the high road (GOOD for you, a lot of guys wouldn't have!) and then you decide to "clean up" and get rid of your porn. Did YOU feel guilty for looking at it? Did you feel it was the fault of the porn that you allowed yourself to be "tempted"? Maybe that WAS the "extra outlet" that you needed.

Some women go completely bonkers when they find out their husband is looking at porn. In most cases, it's not the "morality" of it, but insecurities.....they think they're being compared or ignored because of it.

I'm not a proponent of porn, but at the same time, unless it becomes an obsession, and/or a man is completely ignoring his wife in favor of porn.....I also see no harm in it. As a female, I've looked at it occasionally, and I don't expect to "burn in hell" for it. In my opinion, if a man isn't some kind of pervert.....the porn provides more inspiration than anything else. An open minded woman can get the same kind of inspiration.

Before getting too upset, and/or seeing a doctor.....I'd suggest an experiment. Go on line and check out some of the "free" porn, and see if that has any effect on these sudden "surprises". It can't hurt you......and it might help.

If it doesn't help......then it's time to see the doctor.

That's a much better solution than faking a stroke in a supermarket, lol