How to ask her to shave?

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Registered: 03-13-2005
How to ask her to shave?
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 4:43pm

A bit of advice sought: I'm in a new relationship.

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Registered: 10-18-2001
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 7:31pm

Well, definitely don't email or txt her! LOL!

It's always a tricky thing to ask especially at the start of a relationship. I think that you should wait a little longer until you begin to build a good relationship and begin to understand and learn what she likes and what she doesn't.

I suppose that asking her if she has ever trimmed or considered trimming in a non-threating inquisitive manner *shouldn't* offend her. But of course you just never know how she'll react. I'm sure that her next question would be "Why do you ask? Do you like trimmed pubic hair on a woman?" and the conversation would go from there.

As you said, we don't know what her opinion of it is, and there is really only one way to find out. I do suspect that getting her to shave completely might be a hard task. Taking it in steps might be better and asking her to trim first might be a good way to go. I don't think that it would hurt admitting that you actually like clean shaved - but certainly don't make her feel like she HAS to do it.

One last thing, certainly don't say "Well, the last few women that I've been with have....". Try to phrase it a little more subtly. Maybe something like "I guess that I've gotten used to trimmed pubic hair and I must admit that I quite like it"?

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Registered: 01-10-2005
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 7:57pm
You could asks her if she has any preference on how you keep your "situation", and hopefully she will respond and ask you your preference on her and you could say something like "i think it
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 8:23pm

Do you groom your genitals, and has she ever commented about your pubic hair (or lack of)?

Maybe if you shave, you could let her help with an electric trimmer (or a razor if you're trusting) as part of foreplay. That might open a door where she says she would like to try being trimmed, or you could ask her at that point if she wants a trim. You never know, she might say she would like more than a trim.










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Registered: 05-20-2007
Thu, 09-13-2007 - 9:19pm

Don't email or text her, that would be insulting to her and cowardly on your part....


Have a mature conversation with her.....if she values and respects your needs and turn ons then she won get offended!


Perhaps start of by saying that you would really love to explore the closeness that skin to skin in that area brings. Tell her that you want her to really feel your tongue savoring her body...that you want to see her in all her "naked" glory!


Make it a positive conversation, where she gets the notion that you want both of you to enjoy a new experience...don't focus on the negatives; you don't even have to mention that you don't like hair untrimmed it or

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Registered: 06-12-2006
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 11:46am

I personally hope I never go through that cause I will have to say something before we are initimate.


So, my suggestion is.............


Have you ever shaved before, want to do it together as a foreplay session.


or


How close do you like my hair cut or would you like it clean shaven?


or


Have you had a bikini or brazilian wax, what was your experience like, did it hurt?


Good luck


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Registered: 06-27-2005
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 8:02pm
Well I have been waxed for a few years now. I told DW I was taking her along to watch me get waxed and she would get a bikini wax when I was done. Well after she was in the middle of being waxed I suggested she go brazilian. She did not say know she the gal keep waxing. How great it is to have DW really smooth.
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 10:35pm
Maybe one night after having sex, and giving her oral...you could talk about how much the hair gets in your way....then tell her how sexy you think it is when a woman is trimmed/shaved.
Honestly I love being shaved....it make sex feel sooooo much better.....and I feel so much sexier when I'm smooth down there!
O....another idea....you could send her a link to this thread....
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Registered: 01-04-2006
Sat, 09-15-2007 - 12:41am

"I realize it's full well that it's her body and she has every right to do what she wants with it.

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Registered: 01-27-2007
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 12:07pm

I had the same predicament with my dh.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 1:18pm
Welcome to the board vanishingal, and thanks for joining in.









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