Is he just bored with our sex life now??

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Registered: 04-30-2007
Is he just bored with our sex life now??
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Sun, 09-16-2007 - 10:01pm

First of all, thank you for reading this!


Okay, here's the deal...I am having a sexual problem with my boyfriend of almost 6 months.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 10:48pm

Welcome to the board browneyedmama2007.

It sounds to me like he feels pressured. Is he lasting long enough, is he lasting too long...

Whether or not he ejaculates isn't the determining factor of his enjoyment. When he doesn't last long enough, he could still stimulate you after he does ejaculate, so that you are satisfied. You could also give him a short rest and then stimulate him again to continue. Guys can't always have orgasm after orgasm, nor can they always ejaculate, but it doesn't mean that they don't enjoy themselves.










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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 09-16-2007 - 11:36pm

It sounds very much like this whole relationship revolves around sex!

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 1:16am

Everyone else said it very well, but it does sound like he's worried about how his performance will "measure up". I say, just let it happen, if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't. I'd say, maybe even have a date or meeting where you DON'T have sex. As hard as this sounds, it will make him miss you more. I know you don't feel this way about him, but show him that he's more to you than just a piece of "meat". LOL. Don't complain about whether or not he cums too fast. It will just be a known fact, he can pleasure you in other ways, before or after he cums to satisfy you. This doesn't mean he has lost interest in YOU. We as women are always worried that our men have found something better out there. We harbor insecurities. Don't internalize it. He just feels like he can't do anything right, so better not do it at all, then not do it right. It's a guy thing, LOL.

Just back off a little bit. Don't expect anything from him. Maybe talk with him and tell him that you realize that you have put the pressure on and that is not your intention.

And as far as the staining thing goes, maybe he is self conscience, or private about that kind of thing.

HOpe this helps