Would like some feedback on a situation

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-2005
Would like some feedback on a situation
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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 12:13pm
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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
Tue, 09-18-2007 - 12:42pm

Is what right or wrong?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Tue, 09-18-2007 - 1:14pm

"Although I felt violated I was quite turned on and have been thinking about it all the time since. Is this right..or wrong?"

It seems to me that you're asking if it's right or wrong for you to be turned on by what happened. There is no right or wrong as to what turns any of us on. Many women have rape fantasies, but that doesn't mean they want to be raped in real life.

I can't speak for the type of relationship you have with your room mate or friends. Have you discussed this incident with her/them since that time? Personally, I wouldn't have wanted people to hold me down and do this sort of thing to me, and I would feel violated. As far as if you want this type of thing to happen in the future, or if you want these friends involved in your sexual well-being in such a manner, it's really up to you to let them know where you stand on that. You don't need to tell them anymore than you want them to know, so it's up to you if you want them to know how thinking about that incident makes you feel now.