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while i'm sleeping
| Thu, 09-20-2007 - 10:02pm |
So i've woken up many nights to find my boyfriend's hand in my panties and him "playing" with me. sometimes i let him go for a little while...i know he enjoys it. i have 2 questions:
sometimes i pretend to still be sleeping and he will take his fingers out of me and then suck on them or lick them. It doesn't bother me that he does this, he's his own man. the problem is that he doesn't do anything like this when i'm awake. I'm worried that he isn't able to tell me what he really wants/likes sexually. should i be?
my second ?- while sometimes i don't mind him waking me in the middle of the night, How do i tell him it bothers me sometimes? How do i do this without hurting his feelings?

Welcome to the board aprilmai.
Have you tried just sitting down and talking to him? It shouldn't hurt his feelings that you're tired when you're asleep, KWIM? While it seems that pretending to still be asleep is somewhat effective, you should be able to let him know how you feel about what he's doing.
Are there times you enjoy him waking you up like that? If there are, perhaps you can set okay nights vs. not okay nights for that behavior.
As far as him putting his fingers in his mouth, perhaps he thinks you wouldn't like that. Maybe next time the two of you are awake, and your scent is on his fingers, you could ask him (like dirty talk) to lick them.