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| Sat, 09-22-2007 - 11:37pm |
ok i have a question, i dont know alot about sex or guys, i have only been with one guy for 6 years and he was my first boyfriend and he still is. and let me just say our realationship has been going downhill for years, he has cheated on me twice and i forgave him cause i didnt think i could do any better then him, well a couple weeks ago i met this guy who was in town working and staying at the hotel where i work, i seen him everyday and he flirted and hit on me all the time, he kept trying to get me to come and hang out with him so one night i did and he was talking all sweet to me and saying how pretty i was and how he wanted me so bad and all this other stuff so we ended up having sex, and the next day he acted kinda different towards me and he didnt metion anything about the sex except he rated me an 8 but that was it, but he told his friends all about it and was braging to them about the sex, so my question is how do i know if he liked me or if he just wanted to get laid, and how do i know if he even

Honey, you're right, you don't know anything about men.
Jenny, he's just a kid.
Great words of wisdom!
Welcome to the board Jenny.
It looks like you and Sakura had a nice chat about this last night, and what she is saying is so true.
Even when bad things happen in life, you can usually take some good things from the situation. In this situation, you've learned that you need to work on your self-esteem, and you've learned that you need to be less trusting of people you don't know.
In your original post, you mentioned that you stay with your BF because you thought you couldn't do any better. You also mentioned that he's cheated on you (at least) twice. In life, people treat you the way you allow them too. Work on your self-esteem, and you will see that all turning around.
I think you're learning the downside of "one night stands", especially for a person that doesn't want their body used in such a way. That's not to say that one night stands can never be pleasurable, but it depends on the people involved. If you went into this thinking you just wanted to have a good time for the night, then you wouldn't be having all the second thoughts that you're giving it now. You went into this wanting it to turn into something more. It didn't.
Obviously he thought you were attractive, or he wouldn't have given you a second glance. Since you mentioned the contention that grew the next day, I think it's a good thing you didn't go back to see him. As you have discovered, you didn't know this guy. He may have been pissed, and who knows what he might have done to you to "get even" for telling his friends that he wasn't a great lover.
In time, you will be able to put this behind you and stop thinking about it. Try to just take the lessons that you learned from it forward in life with you. It's history now, so don't beat yourself up about it ... learn and move forward.
Jenny, don't be hard on yourself, and understand that EVERYONE makes mistakes.