Getting frustrated. Help?
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Getting frustrated. Help?
| Thu, 09-27-2007 - 5:34pm |
I've been having sex with my boyfriend for a little over a year now... and I've never gotten off. Ok not a big deal, I know lots of women can't get off only by having intercourse. I still enjoy sex and we do it pretty often. My problem is that nothing works for me except my vibrator. Oral sex does pretty much nothing for me. I've spent a lot of time masturbating trying to figure out what works for me... and I just can't get off without my vibrator! It barely even feels good when I masturbate without it, in fact I can hardly feel it at all. What is going on with me and does anybody have any suggestions?

How long have you been using your vibe?
I have heard that if you use and rely only on your vibrator, it CAN get to the point where that is the only way you can get off.
Good Luck!
Your friend is right!
Welcome to the board aries_86.
Sounds to me like you have become too dependent on your vibe. You could take the vibe to bed with you and your BF, or you could give it up for a while. If you give it up for a while, you should find that you become more sensitive to other types of stimulation.
Once you are comfortable with how you're responding without the vibe, then you can bring the vibe back into occasional play. It might seem like you don't want to go for a while without the vibe, but being able to enjoy sex with your BF more, and being able to learn how to have orgasms differently will make it very worthwhile.
Let us know how it goes.
your problem sounds very much like my problem. i am desenitized in a way too. i can only get off one way too. (i hope i can find a way to O with bf sometime) im workin on it, i find a good way to try to find a way is to try different positions with him. im not sure if u only usually do one position or do try different ones.
good luck :)
~Lioness