So...how can I do more?

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Registered: 12-31-2007
So...how can I do more?
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:29pm

I'm relatively new to sex, and I kinda feel like I just lay there. I mean, I enjoy it, and I know he enjoys it, but I feel like I don't participate much.

Any tips or things I can do to be more involved?






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Registered: 03-08-2004
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:44am

Just laying there will get old and very

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Registered: 12-07-2007
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 1:57pm
Do some searches on ivillage for spicing up the bedroom, oral sex, how to excite him etc etc and you will get a ton of good ideas. My DH loves it when I give him a back rub with my feet when we are either in missionary or he is performing oral. Don't be afraid to try different positions or talk a little dirty. Read a little erotica that can give you some ideas as far as talking dirty. Just relax and have fun. Its not easy in the beginning but you will become more adventurous as you get used to it more and dont be afraid to ask him what he would like.
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 9:44pm

Welcome to the board, crunchyananas.

As Tish said, just laying there will get boring for both of you pretty quickly. Even something as simple as moaning can get you more into the act. Try varying positions, and don't be afraid to tell him what's working and what's not. Spend a good bit of time during foreplay appreciating his body, paying attention to all of his parts, and finding his erogenous zones. Get comfortable letting him do the same with you.

You might want to read some of the other posts on the board for ideas, but here are some articles to get you started too:

Banish Sexual Boredom
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sexinthemood/0,,drpatti_1kkm,00.html

Arousing Alternatives to the Missionary Position
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,drpatti_34s,00.html

Spice Up the Missionary Position
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,askmen_bqds5tlh,00.html?nlcid=ls|06-28-2007|