First time anal sex :(
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| Tue, 02-05-2008 - 3:16am |
Hello everyone, I decided to post rather than tell a friend about something that happened a few days ago because its a bit embarrassing!
Ok here goes -I'm 23 years old and have been casually dating a 33 year old man. We finally decided to have sex recently but I felt totally disgusted and can't tell if my reaction was normal or if any girls out there can relate?!
While we're getting pretty heated up and about to have sex, he asks me "have u ever had your a$$ licked?" and I reply "um..no". I ignore the question and eventually we start having sex. While we are switching positions he reaches for a bottle of baby oil and tries to have anal sex. I was pretty weirded out - I mean its not something I personally would find satisfying but painful. So I snatch the oil away from his hand and place it on the side of the bed. Eventually after being in the spooning position for a few minutes (just rubbing) he slips in the bum area - not even half way - I move away. It hurt for about a whole day and honestly - it also grossed me out.
If that's not enough to put me off, we start having a conversation after were done doing the deed and he brings up a girl he dated in the past. He expressed how much he loved it when she gave him oral and licked everything on him - even his anus. He seemed to have found it mind blowing but I got turned off. He expressed how hes dominant in bed and that he enjoys choking and pulling hair - which makes me wonder if the whole anal sex fetish comes from his turn on of being dominant in bed?
Since this has happened - I've distanced myself. It creeped me out a bit. I can't tell if I'm not being open enough or if his fetishes are in fact unusual.
thanks for reading!!
-m.

It has nothing to do with you not being open enough, it has to do with him being a jerk.
thank you for that advice. He is in fact clueless about a woman's sexual needs but just selfish on his part. I have already broke things off with him and have NO regrets what so ever. Thank you again!
I definitely agree with Tish. If you are feeling uncomfortable with anything, don't do it! I'm glad that you have broken things off with him and hope you find a more considerate man.
Wendy
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You were given great advice already and I just wanted to say, I totally applaude you dumping the guy! You deserve to be treated with respect at all times and no one should ever make you do soemthingyou ar enot comfortable with.
You go girl!
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Welcome to the board, lanolllee (and mom_joslin).
Glad to hear you broke it off.
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Welcome to the board, pinkshadows, and thanks for joining in!
I agree that this was a bad way to be introduced to anal sex.
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