Oh man, that sucks... Yeah, you do have to talk to him. Let him know how disappointed you are in him, and that he will have to work hard in order for you to trust him again. Let us know how it goes.
OK, Liv, take a few deep breaths and count to 10..........
Now, your DH is right that a teenager stretching/bending/breaking the rules is to be expected. HOWEVER, it must not be tolerated without speaking to your son about it.
I would be more concerned about the beer in the car than about the sweater behind the couch. He broke the law by having the beer
I agree wholeheartedly with what Em had to say. Sure, teenagers are going to try and bend/break rules whenever they can, but your job as parents is to (a) not make it easy for them, and (b) let them know that you're not stupid, you weren't born yesterday, and that you did indeed notice the evidence.
At the very least, maybe you'll force them to be more thorough about covering their tracks next time around. ;o)
Liv, I feel for what you're going through. We have always had a rule that the underage kids can't have friends over when we're not around. Since your son is still in high school, I would still enforce that rule even if he's 18. It's not so much about whether he's an adult or not at that point, but there is a 15 year old sister to consider in the whole picture.
Did you talk with him last night? How did things go?
I don't want to say "You asked for it..." but your DS's best intentions and his devotion to you don't measure up to the hormones saying "DO IT!"
If parents go away, kids party. You have to bust him on it (I agree w/previous posts that even though you "get it" you can't excuse it) but you also have to understand that unless Uncle Joe is staying at the homestead, good behaviour is NOT guaranteed.
Oh man, that sucks... Yeah, you do have to talk to him. Let him know how disappointed you are in him, and that he will have to work hard in order for you to trust him again. Let us know how it goes.
OK, Liv, take a few deep breaths and count to 10..........
Now, your DH is right that a teenager stretching/bending/breaking the rules is to be expected. HOWEVER, it must not be tolerated without speaking to your son about it.
I would be more concerned about the beer in the car than about the sweater behind the couch. He broke the law by having the beer
At the very least, maybe you'll force them to be more thorough about covering their tracks next time around. ;o)
Liv, I feel for what you're going through. We have always had a rule that the underage kids can't have friends over when we're not around. Since your son is still in high school, I would still enforce that rule even if he's 18. It's not so much about whether he's an adult or not at that point, but there is a 15 year old sister to consider in the whole picture.
Did you talk with him last night? How did things go?
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I don't want to say "You asked for it..." but your DS's best intentions and his devotion to you don't measure up to the hormones saying "DO IT!"
If parents go away, kids party. You have to bust him on it (I agree w/previous posts that even though you "get it" you can't excuse it) but you also have to understand that unless Uncle Joe is staying at the homestead, good behaviour is NOT guaranteed.