Advice on dirty talk needed
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| Fri, 02-08-2008 - 6:11pm |
Good evening.
First timer. New member. I've posted this on two boards in hopes of getting some good advice. This is the first time I have EVER (38 yrs old BTW) been on a sex message board & I say that not to be dismissive but so you understand how crazy this is making me.
OK, I will get right to it.
During the early days with my wife (15 years ago), I was EXTREMELY jealous. My wife didn't have much experience but the idea of her kissing someone else drove me crazy.
Anyway, about three years ago, we were at her parents' house for Thanksgiving and while in the hallway, I made a little comment about her fooling around in her old, high school bed (she had mentioned this years ago) and she said coyly, "We didn't. We used my parents' bed b/c it was bigger." Well, somehow the cogs in my brain started turning and the idea of her fooling around w/someone prior to me/who wasn't me was so hot (the stories, mind you, NOT the idea of bringing someone else in). Shortly after that visit, I confided to her how hot it made me and how I wish I had been a fly on that wall. We had a passionate night where she told me step by step what happened.
Later, she told me about another prior incident involving oral sex and a car. That was UNBELIEVABLE. The THOUGHT of just her whispering in my ear what had happened still turn me on.
This has been over three years ago and I still can't go to her parents' house or drive down the street where she parked that car without thinking about it. Three + years later and it's all I can think about some times. She still hangs out with her friends from the old days and we get together frequently. She doesn't understand how some of their talks about the past start my mind swimming. And don't get me wrong. I think it a hell of a lot more than I bring it up.
I have shared this with her. The problem is that recently, she has decided that telling those tales makes her "feel stupid." I try not to bring it up too much but I asked her to do it for my birthday and she refused :(
I really would love to re-visit this and I want her to know that while I try to be accommodating, I can't just let this drop. If I could, I would have done it three years ago. Any advice or help?

Welcome to the board, metro3xd.
Perhaps she's becoming uncomfortable sharing stories about her past with you. Have you tried to create some new, exciting memories for the two of you to look back on?
A little over a year ago, hubby and I went away for a few lust filled days. I can't tell you how many new memories we made that weekend -- and they still serve to fuel the fires ;-)
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Hello. Thank you for the response.
That is the problem (her being "uncomfortable"). Still, I don't know how she got to that.
My thing is this: She started it. She initiated it. OH, did she follow through.
It's not like I request every night or even every month.
But once in a while I would like it.
We have great passion. We have dates. We go away by ourselves. It hasn't stopped my craving for this.