umm ok help no sex life due to pregnancy

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Registered: 12-04-2007
umm ok help no sex life due to pregnancy
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Sat, 02-16-2008 - 12:50pm

ok i dont know if im posting this on the right board but i couldnt find anywere else to post it.


ok hubby & i have a 2yodaughter & are expecting again in augst we have had a great sex life up till now it seems all is going down hill. we keep trying to have sex but for some reason it really hurts me & it brings tears to me eyes we have tryed heaps of diffrent postions but nothing works. also a few eeks ago it was a dull pain one that i could ingnor to please my hubby but now it hurts more & i cant do it. also he has a slight problime (some of u may not think so) he last for ages im not joking we can go for nearlly 2hours & he still isnt ready its not that his not turned on its just he cant go any faster witch is a pain as well as after 2hours i get really sore like im red raw i dont no what to do but its starting to make me aviod sex as it takes far to long. its the same whne i give him oral. has anyone else exprencied this with there partner also is it normal to have painfull sex while pregnant????? anywyas hope some one can help me out thanks.

siggy
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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 5:16pm

Welcome to the board, zzbubbleszz.

Sex shouldn't be painful -- pregnant or not. Is is possible that the pain you're feeling is because you are too dry during sex? If that's a possibility, than make sure you're getting enough foreplay (to be properly aroused) and well lubricated. Your hormones change during pregnancy, and that can keep you from producing natural lubrication that you may have prior to the pregnancy. Also it's not uncommon when having sex for a long period of time to need extra lubrication because the friction will dry up what lubrication is there. You can buy water based lubes at pharmacies and often grocery stores or anywhere condoms are sold. Trying an inexpensive brand like KY Jelly might be a good place to start.

If you don't think it's due to dryness, then you really need to talk to your doctor about what is happening. Pregnancy should not make sex painful, but pain can be a sign that something else is going on with you. The doctor can check to make sure physically everything is fine.

Have you talked to your hubby about being sore? Perhaps the two of you can talk and come up with some ways to make him finish sooner.



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Sat, 02-16-2008 - 5:59pm

I agree with what Misty said, try lubricants even if you think you're lubricated enough.

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Registered: 01-25-2008
Sat, 02-16-2008 - 10:04pm
I can understand your frustrations with being pregnant and then having to make love for 2 hours each time!

 

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Registered: 01-25-2008
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 8:32am

Hi bubble


hmm... I must agree with misty, sex should not hurt, ever! if i was you I would go and see your doctor asap, there could be a simple reason such as you are too dry due to hormonal changes in your body or there may be a problem - you must not keep it to yourself seek help NOW!!!!! and make sure that your husband knows about it, don't do things just to please him, think of yourself and your baby


keep us posted


best wishes


belladonna

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Registered: 12-04-2007
Mon, 02-18-2008 - 12:17pm
hey all thanks for your replys i have
siggy
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Registered: 02-24-2008
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 8:38am
Try other things, my husband and I can't have sex because I have a cerclage but we do everything else and I am more turned on beyond belief. I haven't tried this yet but want to stimulate HIS Gspot. I heard this can be very good for him. Just try new things to spice it up
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Tue, 02-26-2008 - 12:23pm

Here's an article you might find helpful for giving him a prostate massage:

Find His G-Spot Fast
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextechnique/0,,drpatti_2mbn,00.html

You'll also see it referred to as a P-Spot.

Good luck with it, and let us know how it goes.



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