A high heeled affair...

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Registered: 11-28-2007
A high heeled affair...
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 2:39pm

ALTOCALCIPHILIA: High heel fetish.


I've read about it, but i am not sure if this is something i "suffer" from..lol


Basically, i feel that since i give 105% in bed (when it DOES occur), I feel I should be able to tell

..Just my 2cents.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Mon, 02-25-2008 - 3:00pm

I have read that a true fetish is a psychological issue .... but in your case, it doesn't seem that this is a fetish in that sense.

When you say that you haven't found one that can indulge you .... how many are you going through? I would think that if they are all casual relationships, then you would have a more difficult time finding that person.

I wear heels sometimes. I know hubby loves it, and it creates variety for us. We like variety, we like to amuse each other, and we like to turn each other on. I'm blessed to have that in my relationship, but it's a relationship that has taken years to build. When you build that type of relationship, you have care and trust for each other. For me, that's what makes it possible to step outside of the box. To me, wearing heels isn't that far out of the box .... but for a person that isn't comfortable in a relationship or confident in herself, it could be too far out of the box.



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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 4:40pm

Hmm, it surprises me that you can't find a woman who is into wearing heels during sex.

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Registered: 10-15-2006
Mon, 02-25-2008 - 8:59pm

I have a closet full of high heels and would have no difficulty wearing them to bed.


I don't necessarily think the idea comes from adult films, although those girls do keep their shoes on.


I did have a pair of maribou slides that matched a silk robe I have. The dog got at them and that was the end of that.


I think an incredibly erotic sight is a woman clad in a full length fur coat* and heels.....and nothing else.


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Mrs P

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Tue, 02-26-2008 - 8:55am

hi mr.linc


well I'm a podiatrist, so for work I do wear most awful, sensible shoes- however when it comes to sex there is a different side of me - the higher the better! I love having sex wearing high heels, my bf loves it too especially when we make love with me on my back resting my heels on his shoulders - it turns us both on sooooo much! once me made love on a table with a large mirror on the other side and the effect for him was doubled - he came in no time at all....I know quite a few of my friends like wearing shoes too, so I'm surprised that you can't find a lady to this for you...and no, I don't think this is a fetish per se in your case - as people who are 'ruled' by fetishes can't orgasm in any other way or at least find it very difficult to do so....


belladonna

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 10:18am

Thank you ladies...


I just want you to know, you ladies that responded, im turning GREEN with envy. All your BF's and hubbies are shakin their heads at me..lol


Some have been Long term relationships, and maybe 2-3 possible "physical relationships where i basically asked and were hit with a PLETHORA of rejections like "bad knees", "bad ankles", "bad hips", "no sense of balance", and even one that said "Heels are for whores!".....but she turned around and asked me to Fist her...LOL


Maybe its a wisconsin thing..lol LAdies feel free to tell those accomodating friends of yours that ive been looking since 1999!

..Just my 2cents.
..Just my 2cents.
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Tue, 02-26-2008 - 10:51am
Whoops, they deleting my posting and I got an email warning. I didn't think the picture from a couple of weeks ago was particularly sexy. Sorry if anyone was even the least bit offended. I see much hotter pictures placed in signatures here all the time, so I wonder what was up.
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Tue, 02-26-2008 - 11:14am

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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 4:30am
I agree with the other posters who don't think you have a fetish. Your interest in high heels sounds more like a preference. I don't think women necessarily believe you have "psychological issues" if you ask for it, since you say it's not a "must do" every single time you have sex. And I don't think it's very much to ask, but I can very well understand the replies you got about bad knees/ankles/hips etc. I hardly ever wear high heels, even though I like them. I have foot problems that get a lot worse from wearing high heels. If I wore them during sex, it would probably be a very rare occurrence. But as you can see, there are a lot of ladies who enjoy this, so there's still hope for you :)

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Registered: 12-25-2006
Wed, 02-27-2008 - 8:28am

This has been a pretty common preference for the men I've encountered.











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Wed, 02-27-2008 - 11:27am
One thing I do once in a while, say if he's going to be getting back late from a business trip, is leave a note near the front door to wake me up when he gets home (the note's a little racier than that lol) and I'll then go to sleep with my heels on. He loves finding me with them on. Fortunately, I'm small and it is a really huge bed, so there's plenty of room.

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