Sex Rules

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Registered: 08-06-2006
Sex Rules
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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 9:12am

Hello All,


Okay, a sex question. But it's not

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:23am

Hi Angel,

I think the answer to that depends on the people involved, and the people they're sharing the information with.

Most of the conversations (outside of the boards here) that I have about my sex life are conversations between DH and I. That's not to say I don't say some things to others, like "our sex life has really taken on a new meaning". In my case, I don't ever discuss my sex life with my mother, I have some friends who I might make the previous type of statement to, and then I have other friends that I might go into more detail with.

In some relationships, one partner doesn't want the other to discuss sexual issues with others. In some relationships, that would be considered overstepping a boundary. Sometimes it's just a narrow area that the partner or partners wouldn't want to discuss.

I think it can make someone feel either sexy as hell or totally uncomfortable to know that their partner has discussed their sex life with another. There are things about our sex life that would make me feel uncomfortable if I knew my DH discussed it with someone else. That's not to say he shouldn't discuss it (in our case), but it is to say I would function better (around that other person) not knowing he discussed it.



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Registered: 01-28-2008
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Thu, 02-28-2008 - 11:44am

I would first ask your husband how he would feel if you would be talking to your "friends" about your personal/sex lives. He might be fine with it. If he thinks you are going to be bragging about him I am sure he will be all for it lol, and if it's not going to be entirely glowing, he might not be game for it.


You have to realize that if everyone knows everyone, then it's entirely possible that something said even "in confidence" might come out and get back to your husband. This could lead to some very uncomfortable conversations for you and your husband.


cbh





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Registered: 08-19-2007
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Thu, 02-28-2008 - 12:50pm

It's already been said, but I agree that it depends on how comfortable the people in the relationship are with it. DB knows that I keep nothing from my mother (she's the one I turn to when I have any sex-related questions or need immediate advice - she's even helped me pick out lingerie before), but he also knows that any discussions I have with her are meant to improve the relationship and aren't just "gossip." He also knows that my best friend and I


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Registered: 04-13-2007
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Thu, 02-28-2008 - 5:10pm
I do have one friend, she's married and has quite a mouth on her. She's a divisional General Counsel of a Fortune 500 corporation! Anyhow, we went over to have dinner with her and I sucked my bf off in the driveway before going in, and I guess I had heavy "cum breath" because between that and a line of mascara running down my face, she pulled me aside, grinned, and asked, "did you just give a blowjob?"
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Registered: 06-24-2006
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Thu, 02-28-2008 - 5:15pm
I think some of my friends on here no more about my sex life then anybody in my real world life.

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Registered: 10-30-2003
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Thu, 02-28-2008 - 10:05pm

Hello SizeO,


You go girl!


My experience is most if not all female attorneys have "quite a mouth" on them.

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Registered: 12-20-2004
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Fri, 02-29-2008 - 8:13am
I have a feeling my sister in law knows
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Registered: 01-25-2008
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Fri, 02-29-2008 - 8:20am

like your reply - it did make me smile


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Registered: 01-25-2008
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Fri, 02-29-2008 - 8:26am

hi sweetbeauty


well being a single child with a 'weird' mother I could never confide in anybody and had a great difficulty to speak to anyone about such an intimate subjects, but I met a lovely girl over 10 years ago and we became very firm friends and she is the only one I can tell anything to - and I mean anything,but make sure that whom ever you confide will not spread this around


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