Too big?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2003
Too big?
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Sun, 03-02-2008 - 4:06am

Hi all,

A friend of mine recently told me that her BF's member is too big, and that intercourse is painful. Now, I'm not very experienced sexually, as I've only had a handful of partners and never encountered this kind of problem, so I honestly didn't know what to offer her in terms of advice. But, is there a solution to this? Like, different positions that one can try?

I personally didn't think that 'it' can be to big, but that just attests to my naivety.

Any comments/advice would be much appreciated!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
In reply to: allydiagon
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 9:02am

You're not as naive as you think.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: allydiagon
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 9:05am

Welcome to the board, allydiagon.

It's difficult to say what might be helpful, but it could be that she's not getting enough foreplay. Foreplay will help assure that she is properly aroused -- which in turn will open her vagina up and provide natural lubrication. She may also wish to try adding more lube for intercourse.

Position can make a difference too. Here's a tool from iVillage that might be helpful:

Perfect Position Selector
http://choosers.ivillage.com/love/perfect_position/launcher.php





iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2003
In reply to: allydiagon
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 12:36pm

Thanks for the advice... I've passed it on to her.

Seems the real problem is that he's too long, and hits her cervix... which can be pretty painful, as I'm sure most of you know!

Now this "Position Selector" is pretty good, but it only has 1 recommendation for this type of problem (Slide). Does anyone have any other positions she could try?

Thanks!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-25-2008
In reply to: allydiagon
Sun, 03-02-2008 - 12:47pm

totally agree with the other replies - lots of foreplay, kissing, oral

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-17-2007
In reply to: allydiagon
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 7:28pm

WOT works well to avoid hitting the cervix. If they enjoy missionary, then I suggest he just doesn't go all the way in. She should be letting him know that she is experiencing pain - if he doesn't, he'll just assume everything is fine. She can also have him sit straight up instead of laying on top of her or have him adjust his position so he can't insert himself all the way.

My BF is a big long for my comfort and we have to adjust. I often just ask him to not go so deep and I typically have my hands on his hips as a sort of bumper. He knows if he feels resistance to my hands, he shouldn't push any further. They can play with pillows and see how that helps. If her bum is elevated, it makes the angle more pleasant. At least, for me it does.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-28-2006
In reply to: allydiagon
Sat, 03-08-2008 - 3:18pm
DW and I have this problem sometimes, especially in the doggy position (which is one of our favorites). One position that works particularly well for us is edge of bed missionary, where she lies on her back with her bottom hanging off the side of the bed, and I enter her from a standing position (this position also provides a great visual for the guy).