Anal question

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Registered: 07-27-2007
Anal question
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 2:06pm

Dont know if I'm on the right board here, but I have a question/comment.


Been involved w/ a MM for a few yrs. now, mostly sex, but we are best friends.

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Registered: 03-31-2007
In reply to: sachi_grl
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 3:18pm

Welcome to the board, sachi_grl, and yes, your questions are completely appropriate to ask here.

Different people like different things when it comes to anal play. It sounds like your guy might have been experimenting some. Perhaps he was thinking about trying anal rimming (actually licking your anus), and was starting slowly to see how you would react to it.

As far as anyone else's thoughts on whether you participate in any type of anal activity -- they really aren't important. It's all about what you and your partner might like to try. If it's something you're interested in, then go for it.

Age, having children, etc. shouldn't make any difference. Also, it doesn't have to hurt -- and shouldn't hurt if done properly. If you want to give it a try, you should educate yourself about anal sex. There are definitely do's and don'ts. You could just be prepared for if he ever wants to try it, or you could try talking to him about it to see if he would like to give it a try. If you're having sex with someone, you should at least be comfortable enough talking to that person about sex, kwim?

Here are some articles that you might find helpful:

5 Myths of Anal Sex Uncovered
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,jdgc,00.html

Adventurous Intimacy: 6 Do's and Don'ts of Anal Sex
http://love.ivillage.com/lnssex/sextaboos/0,,b31g,00.html

I want to try anal sex
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638358_602026,00.html

Second Opinions: Anal Sex
What you should know
http://health.ivillage.com/sexualhealth/0,,7558qs10,00.html

Good luck with what ever you decide. Feel free to ask more questions, or let us know how things go.





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Registered: 12-07-2007
In reply to: sachi_grl
Tue, 03-04-2008 - 11:29am
I have 5 children and sex is no different in anyway then it was before I had kids. Anal sex is not for everyone and it needs to be taken slowly and alot of lube. I myself prefer just being touched, licked and 1 finger is it for me. We tried complete penetration a while back and I just didnt care for it but I love it with a finger. Maybe after awhile I will be adventurous and try it again. I also had 3 apisiotimys(spelling?) and twice I tore. Once from one hole to the other and had roughly 70 something stitches. Have fun and never do anything that you are uncomfortable with. I didnt even know until a few months back how sexually arousing that area is. I love it.