Sex With Guilt

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Sex With Guilt
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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 10:53pm

Do you still have guilt or inhibitions about sex because of things your parents, school or church taught you about sex?


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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 11:09pm
I have gone way

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Tue, 07-22-2008 - 11:16pm

Do you still have guilt or inhibitions about sex because of things your parents, school or church taught you about sex?

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 12:13am

"Do you still have guilt or inhibitions about sex because of things your parents, school or church taught you about sex?"


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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 12:32am

Sex was never discussed in my family while I was growing up. I was never even taught about mensturation, so it was quite a shock to me when I first got my period when I was 12. It turned out that my mother was planning on telling me; she just didn't realize that I'd start when I did. The unspoken rule in our family was that I would remain a virgin until I got married. I almost made it. I just happened to have sex with my first husband about a year before we got married. And I still caught hell from my father, even though I was 25 at the time. That was the only time that I felt guilty, but it was over very quickly.


I masturbated when I was young, read my brother's dirty underground comics, found my father's Playboy stash and never felt guilty about it. I was a rebel from a young age. And nothing that I do now causes guilt within me.


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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 10:07am

My wife of many years harbored many guilt complexes from her Catholic schooling and how she was raised. It took a while to assist her in ridding herself of these hindrances, but today she is a real vamp, and I reap the wonderful benefits.


It is a real shame when strict upbringing hinders a person's innate sexuality.




Edited 7/23/2008 1:32 pm ET by gigi_1000
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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 10:20am

My parents never talked about sex

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 10:26am
Do you think your friends had a lot of facts about sex or were there a lot of myths floating around?

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 10:33am
Well, my folks

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 10:37am
I wonder what is it about some people that will cause them to shed their inhibitions and on the other hand others who do not and cannot allow themselves to enjoy sex.

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Wed, 07-23-2008 - 12:18pm

I think it's often difficult to let go of thoughts that have been instilled into you for so long. Obviously more difficult for some than for others. Those that have changed their thinking usually do so over a period of time, and depending on their own experiences, they have differences there too.

When I was in my mid 20's, I dated a guy who had long since lost his virginity and had several partners over those years. Even in a committed relationship, he would still pray for forgiveness after having sex. He was definitely a very sexually active person, and this wasn't something he discussed with me prior to becoming intimate, rather it was something I discovered by walking in on him while he was praying one night. That didn't work for me at all, it made me feel that I as expecting something of him that he couldn't give freely, to say the least.















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