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Sex With Guilt
| Tue, 07-22-2008 - 10:53pm |
Do you still have guilt or inhibitions about sex because of things your parents, school or church taught you about sex?
| Tue, 07-22-2008 - 10:53pm |
Do you still have guilt or inhibitions about sex because of things your parents, school or church taught you about sex?
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Do you still have guilt or inhibitions about sex because of things your parents, school or church taught you about sex?
Mrs P
"Do you still have guilt or inhibitions about sex because of things your parents, school or church taught you about sex?"
Sex was never discussed in my family while I was growing up. I was never even taught about mensturation, so it was quite a shock to me when I first got my period when I was 12. It turned out that my mother was planning on telling me; she just didn't realize that I'd start when I did. The unspoken rule in our family was that I would remain a virgin until I got married. I almost made it. I just happened to have sex with my first husband about a year before we got married. And I still caught hell from my father, even though I was 25 at the time. That was the only time that I felt guilty, but it was over very quickly.
I masturbated when I was young, read my brother's dirty underground comics, found my father's Playboy stash and never felt guilty about it. I was a rebel from a young age. And nothing that I do now causes guilt within me.
My wife of many years harbored many guilt complexes from her Catholic schooling and how she was raised. It took a while to assist her in ridding herself of these hindrances, but today she is a real vamp, and I reap the wonderful benefits.
It is a real shame when strict upbringing hinders a person's innate sexuality.
Edited 7/23/2008 1:32 pm ET by gigi_1000
My parents never talked about sex
I think it's often difficult to let go of thoughts that have been instilled into you for so long. Obviously more difficult for some than for others. Those that have changed their thinking usually do so over a period of time, and depending on their own experiences, they have differences there too.
When I was in my mid 20's, I dated a guy who had long since lost his virginity and had several partners over those years. Even in a committed relationship, he would still pray for forgiveness after having sex. He was definitely a very sexually active person, and this wasn't something he discussed with me prior to becoming intimate, rather it was something I discovered by walking in on him while he was praying one night. That didn't work for me at all, it made me feel that I as expecting something of him that he couldn't give freely, to say the least.
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