weird problem? help me fix this pls.

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Registered: 06-20-2005
weird problem? help me fix this pls.
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Sun, 08-03-2008 - 3:14am

my bf of 18 months has a problem with having sex while im on my period.

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Registered: 05-14-2008
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 6:52am

A lot of

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 8:13am

Welcome to the board, Emily.

It sounds like your BF is just squeamish about the blood. I wouldn't try to look for reasons outside of that.

While there's nothing wrong with having sex during your period, it's obvious he's not into it. Perhaps wearing a tampon or menstrual cup and being clean would encourage him to try some manual stimulation, or you could use a sex toy or masturbate as a show for him. Use that as a way to show him that there are other things that can be done besides intercourse or activities that would cause a "mess".

Another thing you could try is to have sex in the shower during that time.

Here are a couple of Q&A's that you might want to share with him as well:

How should I have sex during my period?
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638353_640467,00.html

Does it gross guys out when a woman has her period?
http://love.ivillage.com/lnsunderstandmen/0,,guystellall_850zf52s,00.html















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Registered: 12-12-2006
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 9:58am

Some men don't mind it, others do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2005
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 3:12pm
yes, thank you for the suggestions and the links, misty! they were helpful.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2005
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 3:17pm
i understand what you mean, and he does express his love in other ways too. like i said he's a great guy. that's why i was wondering what my problem was, and i guess it really is an insecurity.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2008
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 5:08pm
If he is squeamish about blood...then you'll just have to not have IC that week.
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 3:47pm

just a couple of quick suggestions....when I am at the tail-end of my period, my flow is, of course, much, much lighter.

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Registered: 04-20-2008
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 2:21pm

A guys 2 cents worth. I have never had a problem making love to my partner during her monthly and never had a health issue because of it. Making love in the shower is a lot of fun!!


DD

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Registered: 10-30-2003
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 4:46pm

Hello Emily,


I'm a man so there is no way I'm going to fully understand your dilemma.